Should we be nervous? The comments are in

About this episode

The episode explores the experience of reading comments and the reflections that arise from them.

We did the thing you’re never quite sure you’re ready for—we read the comments. The thoughtful ones, the confusing ones, the ones that made us pause, nod or quietly rethink things. If you’ve ever hesitated before opening a comment thread, or wondered what happens on the other side of the mic, come sit with us. Notes/additional info: At 3:07, the individual Melody is referring to is Roxane Gay, not Rosamund Gay. Related links: Episode 010: " Who's helping who? When support feels like an accusation " Episode 001: " Are you a failure? When proven methods don't work for you " Episode 002: " Are you judging me? Or is it my trauma? " Episode 004: " Is my body wrong? Unlearning the lies about our bodies " Episode 009: " Is it me? Rewiring relationships without gaslighting myself " Article " Four guiding questions for discerning what's yours to carry—and what you need to lovingly set down " ✨ Ready to be a little kinder to yourself? Download our free 5-day self-compassion challenge —with daily prompts, gentle exercises and tools to help you stop the spiral of self-criticism and start speaking to yourself like a friend.

People in this episode

Host: Melody

Topics covered

• comments
• self-reflection
• social media
• communication
• relationships

Keywords

• comments
• self-reflection
• Roxane Gay
• social media
• relationships
• communication

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Who's helping who? When support feels like an accusation, Are you a failure? When proven methods don't work for you, Are you judging me? Or is it my trauma?, Is my body wrong? Unlearning the lies about our bodies, Is it me? Rewiring relationships without gaslighting myself, Four guiding questions for discerning what's yours to carry—and what you need to lovingly set down

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