135: The Sexual Scripts You Didn’t Choose (But Have Been Living From) | Breaking Sexual Conditioning and Porn Addiction

About this episode

This episode discusses how porn addiction affects desire and the underlying sexual scripts that men did not consciously choose.

Most men believe their porn addiction defines them. They think, Why am I turned on by this? Why does my brain go here? Why can’t I stop watching porn? Underneath those questions is shame. But here’s what I want you to understand: you didn’t consciously choose your sexual scripts. Your nervous system learned them. Your brain absorbed them. Your body stored them. And what was conditioned can be retrained. In this episode, I break down how porn addiction rewires desire, how sexual conditioning s...

People in this episode

Host: Jake Kastleman

Topics covered

• porn addiction
• sexual conditioning
• mental health
• self-improvement
• desire
• shame

Keywords

• porn addiction
• sexual scripts
• mental conditioning
• desire
• shame
• retraining
• nervous system

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