Lack of Internal Structure & Enmeshing Relationships

About this episode

The episode explores the impact of enmeshed family dynamics on personal identity and adult relationships.

Enmeshed families are said to be created by adults who do not have clear psychological boundaries. These boundaries are part of what helps a child to develop their own sense of self. What is it like to experience a parent who does not have a clear sense of self, or proper internal boundaries? And what is it like from either side of the adult relationships that these children grow up to have? Lucy (NPD with ASPD traits) and Nota (BPD with traits of Vulnerable Narcissism) talk about their own experiences, and how it felt from the inside. For more information about enmeshment and the dynamics of dependence and avoidance, these links might be useful: https://www.emotionenhancement.com/single-post/enmeshment-trauma-and-how-it-impacts-your-relationships https://www.healthyplace.com/personality-disorders/malignant-self-love/the-narcissists-mother https://www.gottman.com/blog/are-you-losing-you-in-the-relationship-enmeshment-detachment-and-differentiation/ https://whatiscodependency.com/bpd-borderline-personality-disorder/ https://www.michaelsamsel.com/Content/Couples/fusion.html https://www.counsellingservicemelbourne.com.au/personality-disorder-treatment/borderline-personality-disorder/

People in this episode

Host: Nota

Guest: Lucy

Topics covered

• enmeshment
• psychological boundaries
• family dynamics
• self-identity
• relationship issues

Keywords

• enmeshment
• psychological boundaries
• family relationships
• self-identity
• BPD
• NPD
• relationship dynamics

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