About this episode
Dan Savage addresses various listener questions about sexual health, relationships, and cultural shifts in queer dynamics.
Sometimes the questions we get here at Savage Lovecast Industries™ are nothing but pragmatic. A man with a moldy home asks how he can properly dry his Fleshlight. Seems important. A woman fell off a trapeze 15 years ago and has suffered sexual dysfunction ever since. Dan brings on pelvic floor therapist Dr. Rachel Gelman to discuss her case and to call out doctors who belittle sexual concerns. When a unicorn is unhappy, the universe seizes up for a second. This woman made it crystal clear that she was NOT interested in any of that butt stuff. But what did the man in the couple do? Can you guess? He tried to poke her in her butt! She plans to berate him in a public place. But what exactly should she say, and can she ever trust him again? On the Magnum, Dan brings on comedian Conor Janda to discuss the old "fag hag" relationship that has drifted away with queer acceptance and inclusion. What's the difference between a "girl's gay" and a "gay's gay" and who would you rather be? They also advise a middle-aged widower who is dropping everything, moving to NYC to become a stand-up comic and diving headlong into gay sex. And here's the kind of call that gives monogamy a bad reputation…
People in this episode
Host: Dan Savage
Guests: Conor Janda, Dr Rachel Gelman
Topics covered
- sexual dysfunction
- pelvic floor therapy
- relationship advice
- queer culture
- monogamy
Keywords
- Fleshlight
- trapeze accident
- butt stuff
- fag hag
- open relationships
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Products: Fleshlight, Magnum, Savage, Helix, Load Boost, Drive Boost, Soaking Wet
Books & works: Savage Love
Places: NYC
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