Savage Lovecast Episode 1014

Savage Lovecast Episode 1014

From Savage Lovecast by Dan Savage

April 14, 2026 · 57 min · Episode 1014

About this episode

This episode explores sexual attraction, conflicting dynamics in BDSM, and discusses the implications of certain stereotypes in sexuality.

A happily married lesbian is super turned-on by a male acquaintance's cologne. She barely knows the guy. So how can she ask him "What are you WEARING?" Here's a conundrum: a sub serves two different masters. So what should she do when they give her conflicting orders? On the Magnum, everybody loves Doc Chocolate! The former pastor turned porn star, adult educator and content creator is back to help Dan answer a question about use of the potentially problematic term "BBC." (Look it up.) Is it a positive stereotype? Or negative? They also talk about the rigorous STI health protocols Las Vegas sex workers must adhere to. And, a listener challenges Dan's stance on how much responsibility the blow job giver has once the lucky receiver is "over the falls." Your only duty...is to call us. 206-302-2064 Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld’s new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance…

People in this episode

Host: Dan Savage

Guest: Doc Chocolate

Topics covered

  • sexual attraction
  • conflicting orders
  • sexual health
  • stereotypes
  • STI protocols

Keywords

  • lesbian
  • cologne
  • BBC
  • STI health protocols
  • blow job responsibility

Sponsors

Feeld, Foria, VB Health

Mentioned in this episode

Products: Magnum, Lovecast, Feeld, Drive Boost, Savage, Foria, VB Health

Books & works: Savage Lovecast, Reflections

Places: Las Vegas

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