Q&A: What should I do when my toddler hits or pulls my hair?

About this episode

This episode addresses common parenting challenges related to toddler aggression and emotional regulation.

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... Why the expectation that toddlers should already know how to regulate themselves is a common parenting myth. What's actually happening in a child's brain and body when their emotional "gas tank" is empty. Why your child's big reaction to a limit doesn't mean you've done something wrong. The difference between holding a boundary and trying to solve your child's feelings. What to do when your child's behavior is physically aggressive, like hitting or hair pulling. Why your own triggers matter and how understanding them can help you respond differently. The foundational factors (like sleep, fresh air, movement, and connection) that often drive behavior more than discipline strategies. If you've ever felt powerless, guilty, or overwhelmed in the face of your child's big emotions, this episode will help you zoom out, reset unrealistic expectations, and approach these moments with more clarity and compassion—for both your child and yourself. REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES: 👉 Want extra support in your parenting journey? Upshur Bren Psychology Group offers therapy and…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Sarah Bren

Guest: Dr. Rebecca Hershberg

Topics covered

• toddler behavior
• emotional regulation
• parenting myths
• aggressive behavior
• parenting support
• child development

Keywords

• toddler hitting
• hair pulling
• parenting questions
• emotional gas tank
• boundaries
• parenting support
• triggers
• behavior management

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