Is It a Red Flag If You Never Fight With Your Partner?

About this episode

Ilana and Jake discuss the implications of a conflict-free relationship and answer listener questions about relationships and moving on from exes.

We're both sick, we slept until noon, and we have a mystery anniversary trip in two days — Jake planned the whole thing and Ilana has no idea where they're going. We talk froyo orders (gummy bears are a crime), the great do-guys-actually-give-each-other-style-feedback debate, and tease next week's recording from wherever they end up. Two listener questions this week: one from someone whose relationship has been conflict-free for a year and is spiraling because the internet says that's a red flag (spoiler: it's not), and one from someone who knows her ex wasn't right for her but still can't stop hurting seeing him move on. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople   Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code…

People in this episode

Host: Ilana Dunn

Topics covered

• relationships
• conflict resolution
• red flags
• dating advice
• listener questions

Keywords

• red flag
• conflict-free relationship
• listener questions
• dating advice
• moving on

Sponsors

Rula, Quince, Nutrafol, OneSkin

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