When a Second Chance Is Worth It (And When It’s Self-Sabotage)

About this episode

Dr. Joy Burkheimer discusses the complexities of second chances in relationships and the psychology behind personal growth after hurt.

Dr. Joy Burkheimer joins the podcast for a conversation about second chances, relationship “redemption arcs,” and whether people can actually change after hurting someone they love. From attachment styles and cheating to avoidant behavior, breakups, and the psychology behind going back to an ex, we talk about the difference between genuine growth and simply saying the right things. Dr. Joy also opens up about how her own divorce led her to become a therapist, why relationships naturally evolve every few years, and what it really means to choose your partner over and over again. We also get into dating anxiety, rebuilding trust, listener questions about reconnecting with exes, and why protecting your peace doesn’t always mean walking away. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople   Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at…

People in this episode

Host: Ilana Dunn

Guest: Dr. Joy Burkheimer

Topics covered

• second chances
• relationship redemption
• attachment styles
• dating anxiety
• trust rebuilding
• ex relationships

Keywords

• second chances
• relationship growth
• attachment styles
• dating anxiety
• trust
• exes
• self-sabotage

Sponsors

Rula, Quince, Nutrafol, OneSkin

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