My Dating Mistakes I Understand Differently Now

About this episode

Ilana reflects on her past dating mistakes and shares insights on emotional availability and compatibility.

This solo episode is all about hindsight, growth, and the dating choices I understand differently now. I’m reacting to listener-submitted scenarios through two lenses: what past me probably would’ve done, and what I’d do now. We’re talking about emotionally unavailable people, confusing anxiety for chemistry, trying to be chosen instead of evaluating compatibility, and the difference between knowing better versus actually being ready to do better. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople   Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople . See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

People in this episode

Host: Ilana Dunn

Topics covered

• dating mistakes
• hindsight
• personal growth
• emotional availability
• compatibility
• anxiety in dating

Keywords

• dating
• relationships
• self-reflection
• emotional health
• personal development

Sponsors

Rula, Quince, Nutrafol, OneSkin

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