About this episode

This episode explores the common sexual fantasy of hotwifing and its psychological implications with guest Kathy Kay.

Being turned on by the idea of sharing your partner with someone else is a surprisingly common sexual fantasy, and it’s something many couples are actively exploring in real life. In today’s show, we’re diving into a practice known as hotwifing, including how common it is and the psychology behind it. My guest is Kathy Kay, host of the Strictly Anonymous Podcast and author of the new book Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers, a collection of real, unfiltered stories from people revealing their most private sexual thoughts and experiences. Some of the specific topics we explore include: What is hotwifing, and how is it similar to or different from cuckolding? What are some common themes involved in hotwifing fantasies? Why is hotwifing appealing to so many people? What are people’s experiences with hotwifing like? To learn more, check out the Strictly Anonymous website. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors! Let this Mother’s Day be a reminder that she deserves care, too. Discover how Cozy Earth turns everyday routines…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Guest: Kathy Kay

Topics covered

• hotwifing
• sexual fantasies
• cuckolding
• couples
• psychology of sexuality

Sponsors

Cozy Earth

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Strictly Anonymous Podcast, Sexual Health Alliance

Books & works: Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers

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