About this episode

This episode explores the key ingredients of lasting love with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, focusing on how love is built over time through specific behaviors and interactions.

We tend to think of love as something that just happens. You meet the right person, you feel a spark, and everything else just falls into place. However, love doesn’t come effortlessly. It’s something we build over time. In this episode, we’re exploring the key ingredients of lasting love and the everyday behaviors that keep love alive. My guest is Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, an award-winning social psychologist, TED Speaker, and relationship expert. Her latest book, Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love, introduces the Emergent Love Model, a framework born from research with hundreds of couples across 41 countries. Some of the specific topics we address include: How can you sustain and cultivate attraction over time in long-term relationships? Why is respect one of the most overlooked ingredients of love? How is trust built in small, everyday interactions? How can we learn to be more compassionate in our relationships? Learn more about Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh at www.Sara-Nasserzadeh.com and join her online community here and follow her on Instagram here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Guest: Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh

Topics covered

• lasting love
• relationship psychology
• attraction
• trust
• compassion
• social psychology

Sponsors

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Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love

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