About this episode

This episode discusses the challenges couples face in communicating about sex and offers strategies for healthier conversations.

A lot of couples struggle to talk about sex because those conversations can feel incredibly vulnerable. And if the topic comes up at all, it’s often only when there’s a problem in the bedroom, which makes every discussion feel loaded with pressure, shame, defensiveness, or fear of rejection. In today’s episode, we’ll discuss how couples can communicate about intimacy in healthier and more productive ways. I am joined once again by Michelle Fischler, an ASTO Certified Sex Therapist with over a decade of clinical experience. She is also the founder of GETSOME, a platform and podcast dedicated to dissolving sexual shame. Her new book is titled Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer. Some of the specific topics we explore include: Why do conversations about sex feel so vulnerable? How can couples make talking about sex feel less high-stakes? How does shame complicate sexual communication? What mistakes do couples make when discussing intimacy problems? What helps partners feel safer talking about sex? You can check out Michelle’s website to learn more about her work and follow her on the socials at @getsome_podcast Got a sex question? Send me a…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Guest: Michelle Fischler

Topics covered

• sexual communication
• intimacy
• couples therapy
• vulnerability
• shame
• relationship advice

Keywords

• sexual communication
• intimacy
• couples
• vulnerability
• shame
• relationship
• therapy
• sex therapist

Sponsors

Load Boost

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: GETSOME, VB Health

Products: Load Boost

Books & works: Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer

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