About this episode

This episode explores consensual non-monogamy through a trauma-informed lens with guest Kate Loree.

People often think successful non-monogamy comes down to communication, boundaries, and relationship agreements. But underneath those conversations are deeper psychological dynamics involving attachment, emotional safety, and nervous system regulation. In today’s episode, we’re exploring what it means to approach consensual non-monogamy through a trauma-informed lens. My guest is Kate Loree, LMFT, a sex-positive psychotherapist, author, and speaker specializing in trauma, relationships, sexuality, and non-traditional relationship structures. She is the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships. She also co-hosts the Open Deeply podcast with Sunny Megatron. Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include: What does “trauma-informed non-monogamy” actually mean? What are signs someone may be consenting without truly feeling grounded internally? How can somatic tracking help us better understand our intuitions? How can jealousy be reframed as a source of curiosity rather than anxiety? How can people assess whether they’re emotionally ready for consensual non-monogamy? Learn more about Kate’s work by visiting her…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Guest: Kate Loree

Topics covered

• trauma-informed non-monogamy
• attachment
• emotional safety
• nervous system regulation
• consensual non-monogamy
• jealousy
• somatic tracking

Keywords

• non-monogamy
• trauma
• relationships
• psychotherapy
• jealousy
• emotional readiness
• attachment styles

Sponsors

VB Health, Soaking Wet

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Open Deeply

Products: Soaking Wet

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