The Sexiest thing YOU can do is Set a Boundary
From Swapping Secrets by Our Secret Spot
January 14, 2026 · 57 min
About this episode
The episode explores the importance of setting boundaries in open relationships and how it relates to emotional resilience and communication.
In this episode of Swapping Secrets , Jess and Lawrence are joined by Bradford and Angela from the By The By Podcast to unpack the emotional mechanics of jealousy, envy, fear of missing out, and the boundaries that keep open relationships healthy, sexy, and sustainable. Together, they explore why jealousy often has more to do with insecurity than possession, how unmet needs amplify emotional reactions, and why clear boundaries don’t restrict freedom — they protect connection. From real-world club experiences to long-term lessons learned across 15 years of ethical non-monogamy, this episode dives into how communication, emotional awareness, and post-play check-ins can transform conflict into growth. The conversation also tackles the crucial difference between rules and boundaries, why boundaries should never be renegotiated mid-moment, and how to communicate limits without shame, control, or killing the vibe. Whether you’re new to non-monogamy or deeply experienced, this episode is a masterclass in emotional resilience, consent-driven communication, and why boundaries might just be the sexiest skill you can learn. Bradford & Angela’s links: Website…
People in this episode
Hosts: Jess, Lawrence
Guests: Bradford, Angela
Topics covered
- boundaries
- jealousy
- emotional awareness
- non-monogamy
- communication
- ethical relationships
Keywords
- boundaries
- jealousy
- non-monogamy
- communication
- emotional resilience
- ethical non-monogamy
- FOMO
- relationship dynamics
Sponsors
Flirt, Stigma Health
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: By The By Podcast
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