About this episode

Dr. Alison Cook and Dr. Kelly Flanagan discuss how to respond to being triggered in relationships with clarity and intention.

What if getting “triggered” isn’t the problem… but a signal? We all have moments where our body reacts fast—your heart races, your defenses go up, and suddenly you’re not responding from your wisest self. In this episode, Dr. Alison sits down with Dr. Kelly Flanagan to explore what’s really happening in those moments—and how to respond with more clarity, connection, and intention. Together, they unpack what’s happening behind reactivity and what it looks like to interrupt that cycle in real time. You’ll learn: Why being triggered is a normal nervous system response How to notice your reactions before they take over The difference between protection mode and connection mode How to set boundaries without escalating conflict Why an open heart leads to wiser—not weaker—boundaries If you’ve ever felt stuck in reactive patterns in your relationships, this conversation offers a grounded, compassionate way forward. More Resources: Order Dr. Kelly Flanagan’s new book, The Road Less Triggered. You can preorder Dr. Alison’s newest book, The Secure Soul, and immediately receive the first 3 chapters as well as early access to the companion guide! Connect further with @dralisoncook on…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Alison Cook

Guest: Dr. Kelly Flanagan

Topics covered

• triggered responses
• relationships
• boundaries
• nervous system
• reactivity
• communication

Keywords

• triggered
• marriage
• parenting
• friendship
• reactivity
• boundaries
• communication

Mentioned in this episode

Products: The Road Less Triggered, The Secure Soul

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