About this episode

Ashley Gavin and guest Neil Rubenstein discuss the complexities and benefits of polyamory in relationships.

This episode is OPEN and HONEST, listener! Neil Rubenstein is an incredible pansexual comedian who regularly opens for Ashley on the road, but today they’re meeting in the HOTEL ROOM for something a bit more saucy… We discuss polyamory, its benefits & challenges, mental health & healing, sex vs. gender expression, hooking up with gay republicans, and falling in love with a poly granny. Ashley goes in-depth on being open. Neil goes gay on the road. FOLLOW NEIL RUBENSTEIN: He’s on tour! Sign up for his mailing list to find out where: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1ZtPjhYREDKcbpqAtJJS1ILEOjWhRLCPj_i56ckOLBvk/viewform?edit_requested=true  Join his Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/NeilRubenstein  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsneilrubenstein  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neilrubenstein/  FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW ALEX VRAHAS @alvrahas Mailing List: https://forms.gle/t48AUUEYzrNagU1B9  Instagram…

People in this episode

Host: Ashley Gavin

Guest: Neil Rubenstein

Topics covered

• polyamory
• relationships
• mental health
• gender expression
• comedy
• love

Keywords

• polyamory
• relationships
• mental health
• comedy
• gender expression
• gay
• love

Sponsors

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Organizations: Studio71, Patreon, TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter

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