Ep# 76: When Exhausting Relationships Take Up Time

Ep# 76: When Exhausting Relationships Take Up Time

From "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast) by Jen Kirkman

March 30, 2026 · 32 min · Episode 76

About this episode

Jen discusses the impact of exhausting relationships and the 'laziness lie' on personal boundaries.

In this episode, I'm talking about the "laziness lie" from Dr. Devon Price's book Laziness Does Not Exist and how believing you're lazy if you don't help people can quietly destroy your boundaries. I get into why some relationships leave you exhausted, how over-helping actually keeps people stuck, and what it looks like to start pulling back in small, realistic ways. Get support in Jen's "We Are A Lot" online community. An interactive (yet self-paced, no forced socializing) group giving you 24/7 peer to peer support. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD humans that need connection and gentle accountability with taking action, so you're not doing it all alone. You get daily body doubling sessions with Jen, weekly check-in progress meetings, extras like live Q&A's with Jen, book club meetings, journaling sessions with Jen, instructional videos for nervous system regulation, a private chat community, free worksheets, guides and printables, journal prompts, as well as all of the podcast episodes early and ad-free, video versions with transcripts, and four audio bonus episodes per month. This monthly membership supports learning things at your own pace so that you can act like your own…

People in this episode

Host: Jen Kirkman

Topics covered

  • boundaries
  • relationships
  • ADHD
  • self-help
  • mental health

Keywords

  • ADHD
  • boundaries
  • relationships
  • mental health
  • self-help

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Laziness Does Not Exist, We Are A Lot

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