If Care Feels Like Distance, What Is Love For
From Mindfully With 'Tunmise by Oluwatunmise Oladapo Kuku
March 10, 2026 · 50 min · Season 7 · Episode 6
About this episode
The episode explores the gap between affection and attunement in relationships, emphasizing the importance of safety in love.
Send us Fan Mail What if being loved still leaves you lonely? We sit down with Ola—now an author—to trace the subtle gap between affection and attunement, and why safety is the missing ingredient in so many families and partnerships. Through personal stories, cultural context, and clear language, we unpack how tone, co‑regulation, and early repair teach a nervous system what intimacy feels like, for better or worse. We start with the book’s bold thesis: love without safety can feel like aban...
People in this episode
Host: Oluwatunmise Oladapo Kuku
Guest: Ola
Topics covered
- love
- loneliness
- affection
- attunement
- safety
- intimacy
Keywords
- love
- safety
- intimacy
- affection
- loneliness
- co-regulation
- nervous system
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