#248: How to Cope With My Ex Being Happy in a New Relationship (Ask Steph)

#248: How to Cope With My Ex Being Happy in a New Relationship (Ask Steph)

From On Attachment by Stephanie Rigg

April 9, 2026 · 12 min · Season 1 · Episode 248

About this episode

This episode discusses how to cope with the pain of seeing an ex move on to a new relationship.

In today’s Ask Steph episode, we’re talking about how to cope when your ex seems to have moved on soon after your break-up — and is now in a new relationship that appears to be working. This can be an incredibly painful experience, especially if you’re still grieving the relationship. It often brings up comparison, self-doubt, and questions like “Was I the problem?” In this episode, I unpack why this situation feels so triggering, what’s actually going on beneath the surface, and how to shift out of rumination and back into your own power. We cover: Why seeing your ex move on can feel like “salt in the wound” The different ways anxious and avoidant people process breakups Why your ex’s behaviour isn’t a reflection of your worth The illusion of their new relationship “working” How new relationship energy can mask underlying patterns The impact of comparison, rumination, and self-doubt Why focusing on your ex keeps you stuck How to set boundaries and reclaim your energy Resources For free resources on break-ups and anxious attachment, click here . Check out my break-up course Higher Love here

People in this episode

Host: Stephanie Rigg

Topics covered

  • coping with breakups
  • ex relationships
  • self-worth
  • anxious attachment
  • rumination
  • boundaries

Keywords

  • breakup
  • ex
  • self-doubt
  • comparison
  • anxious attachment
  • new relationship energy
  • boundaries

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