Motivation To Change In Relationships
From Relationship Advice by Thrive Therapy - Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich
March 13, 2026 · 52 min
About this episode
The episode discusses the challenges of motivating change in relationships and emphasizes the importance of understanding barriers and building support.
Most relationships start with “I love you, you’re perfect”… and quickly turn into wanting your partner to change. The real problem isn’t usually whether they want to change—it’s that change is rarely A→B; it’s a process that requires understanding barriers, reducing shame, and building support. When couples shift from criticism to curiosity and create small, doable systems together, motivation increases and change becomes sustainable. Talking points “Now change” cycle Wanting vs doing Shame kills change Barriers before solutions 1% systems Practice + support Give Me Discounts! Check out Relationship Academy! Cozy Earth - Black Friday has come early! Right now, you can stack my code “IDO” on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. These deals won’t last, so start your holiday shopping today! Beducate - Use code relationship69 for 65% off the annual pass. AG1 - AG1 has become my go to every morning. Simple Practice - If you're in mental health and not using simple practice then what are you doing??? Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our…
People in this episode
Hosts: Lauren Mokarry, Colter Bloxom, Cayla Bozovich
Topics covered
- motivation to change
- relationships
- barriers to change
- support systems
- criticism vs curiosity
- sustainable change
Keywords
- change
- relationships
- motivation
- support
- barriers
- criticism
- curiosity
- sustainable change
Sponsors
Cozy Earth, Beducate, AG1, Simple Practice, Spark My Relationship Course, Skylight
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: Relationship Academy
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