The Mental Load in Relationships (Why It Causes Stress)
From Relationship Advice by Thrive Therapy - Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich
March 28, 2026 · 52 min
About this episode
This episode discusses the concept of mental load in relationships and how it can lead to stress and resentment if not addressed through open communication and clear expectations.
The mental load in relationships refers to the invisible work of planning, remembering, organizing, and anticipating what needs to happen in a household or family. When one partner carries more of this cognitive responsibility, it can lead to stress, resentment, and the feeling that the other partner assumes things “magically” get done. Couples can reduce conflict by communicating openly about expectations, acknowledging differences in capacity and strengths, and creating clear agreements about responsibilities. Main Talking Points: Invisible cognitive work Household task planning Capacity differences Clear expectations Communication over criticism Appreciation and teamwork Give Me Discounts! AG1 - AG1 has become my go to every morning. Beducate - Use code relationship69 for 65% off the annual pass. Check out Relationship Academy! Cozy Earth - Black Friday has come early! Right now, you can stack my code “IDO” on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. These deals won’t last, so start your holiday shopping today! Simple Practice - If you're in mental health and not using simple practice then what are you doing??? Spark My Relationship…
People in this episode
Hosts: Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, Cayla Bozovich
Topics covered
- mental load
- relationships
- communication
- cognitive work
- household responsibilities
- stress management
Keywords
- mental load
- relationships
- communication
- stress
- cognitive work
- expectations
- household tasks
Sponsors
AG1, Beducate, Cozy Earth, Simple Practice, Spark My Relationship Course, Skylight
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