About this episode

Dr. Abby Medcalf discusses why individuals often choose the wrong partners and how to change these patterns.

If you've ever said, "My picker is broken," I want you to stop right there. Your picker isn't broken. It's working exactly the way it was trained to work. The problem is what it was trained on, and that's something you can actually change. In this episode, I'm going to walk you through the three psychological mechanisms that explain why you keep ending up in the same painful patterns, why that person who seemed so amazing kept disappointing you, and what you can concretely do to choose differently starting today. You're going to get the reframe, and then, as always, you're going to get the tools. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/why-you-keep-choosing-the-wrong-partner Download The Pattern Snapshot, a quick self-assessment to name what's actually driving your relationship pattern: https://abbymedcalf.com/pattern-snapshot Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack . You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby _________ Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Abby Medcalf

Topics covered

• relationship patterns
• psychological mechanisms
• partner selection
• self-improvement
• personal growth

Keywords

• wrong partner
• relationship patterns
• psychology
• self-assessment
• personal development

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