About this episode

This episode explores the psychological need to feel chosen in relationships and offers strategies to overcome feelings of being an afterthought.

You wanted them to choose you without being asked because you believe that if you have to ask, it doesn’t really count. You want a partner who puts their work down first. The parent who calls to see how you're doing. The friend who reaches out for no reason. When they don't, something in you decides it means there’s something wrong with you, and you add it to a growing list of evidence that you're the afterthought. But wanting to be chosen is a real psychological need, not neediness. The problem isn't the wanting, it's a belief you're probably carrying about what asking means . Today we'll name the five things you actually need to feel safe and seen in a close relationship, the belief that's quietly eroding yours, and a three-step process I call the 3 A's for getting out of the trap. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/why-you-feel-like-an-afterthought Download Am I Running a Silent Test? A Quick Self-Assessment, which walks you through spotting your own Silent Tests and running the 3 A's, step by step: https://abbymedcalf.com/silent-test Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Abby Medcalf

Topics covered

• relationships
• psychological needs
• self-worth
• communication
• emotional safety

Keywords

• afterthought
• relationships
• psychological need
• self-assessment
• 3 A's

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