About this episode

Dr. Abby Medcalf discusses how the concept of fairness can be a destructive force in relationships and offers insights on changing one's perspective to improve relational dynamics.

That's not fair. You said it as a kid. You've thought it as an adult. Maybe you thought it this morning when you were loading the dishwasher while your partner sat on the couch. Maybe you thought it when you were the one who made the dinner and then also had to clean up because somehow that's just how it goes. Maybe you're thinking it right now, because you're the one reading this, trying to figure out how to make things better, and why are you always the one who has to make changes when they're not doing anything? That's not fair either. Fairness is one of the most universal thoughts humans have. And it's also one of the most quietly destructive forces in a relationship. Today, I'm going to show you why the fairness argument keeps you stuck, what the research says about what's happening in your brain when things feel unfair, and the one question that will change everything the next time you feel the resentment starting to build. You're going to leave this episode with a completely different way of thinking about fairness, and I promise it's going to change how you show up in every relationship in your life. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Abby Medcalf

Topics covered

• fairness
• relationships
• resentment
• communication
• self-improvement

Keywords

• fairness
• relationships
• resentment
• communication
• self-improvement
• change
• thoughts

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