This Messy, Gorgeous Love—a Conversation with Tara and Devon and Nico Hase

About this episode

Tara Brach discusses love and relationships with Devon and Nico Hase, exploring insights from their book on deepening partnerships.

Tara is joined by two longtime friends and wonderful teachers, Devon and Nico Hase, to explore their recent book, This Messy, Gorgeous Love: A Buddhist Guide to Lasting Partnership . This refreshingly real and relatable book offers guidance for anyone wanting to deepen love in their relationships. Drawing from their own lived experience—with humor, humility, and insight—Devon and Nico reveal how partnership can be both challenging and profoundly transformative. In this conversation, they explore what truly supports a deep and loving partnership: how to meet conflict and reactivity, how practice comes alive in everyday moments, how to bring mindful presence into sexuality, and how reflecting on impermanence can deepen intimacy. While centered on intimate partners, the teachings speak to the whole field of our relationships. Our introduction music is from "Opening" by Adrienne Torf, © 2025 ABT Music

People in this episode

Host: Tara Brach

Guests: Devon Hase, Nico Hase

Topics covered

• love
• relationships
• Buddhism
• mindfulness
• intimacy
• conflict resolution

Keywords

• Buddhism
• partnership
• mindfulness
• intimacy
• conflict
• relationships
• love

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: This Messy, Gorgeous Love: A Buddhist Guide to Lasting Partnership

More episodes of Tara Brach

• Meditation: Touching Peace (23:12 min.) · April 29, 2026 · 23 min
• The Honesty Challenge - Getting More Truthful with Ourselves and Our World · April 23, 2026 · 54 min
• Meditation: Vipassana - The Practice of Seeing Clearly (18:31 min.) · April 22, 2026 · 19 min
• Compassion in Times of Conflict—a Conversation with Tara, Paul Gilbert, and Rick Hanson · April 16, 2026 · 1h 4m
• Meditation: Widening Rings of Being (20:26 min.) · April 15, 2026 · 20 min
• Meditation: Embodying Loving Awareness (19:42 min.) · April 8, 2026 · 20 min