195: Do You Want Love Or Do You Want to Be Picked So You Feel Worthy?

About this episode

This episode explores the unhealthy patterns in relationships related to self-worth and external validation.

If you've ever lost interest the moment someone became available, or stayed obsessed with someone who kept you at arm's length, this episode is for you. Part three of the Hard Truth Series breaks down the most common pattern nobody wants to admit: using relationships to collect proof of your worth instead of building real partnership. Backed by research on rejection sensitivity and anxious attachment, Sabrina unpacks why chasing external validation creates a cycle no amount of love can fix, how to tell if you are dating for connection or reassurance, and what it actually takes to stop performing and start showing up. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on…

People in this episode

Host: Sabrina Zohar

Topics covered

• relationships
• self-worth
• validation
• attachment styles
• dating patterns
• personal growth

Keywords

• love
• rejection sensitivity
• anxious attachment
• dating
• connection
• self-improvement

Sponsors

Acorns, Momentous

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