About this episode

Amir Levine discusses attachment styles and offers insights on how to build secure relationships.

The author of Attached, Amir Levine, M.D., is back with a new book called Secure and a whole new framework for understanding why your relationships feel the way they do. In this episode, we get into the biggest misconceptions about anxious and avoidant attachment, the truth about whether you can actually change your attachment style, why avoidants shut down instead of showing up, what a "closeness overdose" is and why it kills perfectly good relationships, and the five pillars of a secure life built around his CARP framework: consistent, available, responsive, reliable, and predictable. If you've ever been stuck in anxious hyper-vigilance, wondered how to build a secure relationship with someone more avoidant, struggled with limerence and obsessive attachment, or just wanted to stop letting your nervous system run the show, this episode gives you real, research-backed tools to start rewiring your brain toward earned secure attachment starting today. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠ If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it…

People in this episode

Host: Sabrina Zohar

Guest: Amir Levine

Topics covered

• attachment styles
• relationships
• self-improvement
• anxiety
• emotional health

Keywords

• attachment style
• anxious attachment
• avoidant attachment
• secure relationships
• nervous system

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Attached, Secure, Why Am I Like This?

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