What to Say Instead of Getting Defensive

What to Say Instead of Getting Defensive

April 16, 2026 · 25 min

About this episode

Dr. Tom Philp discusses alternative responses to defensiveness and how to maintain constructive conversations.

In this episode we discuss what to say instead of getting defensive, as well as the 3 defensive ways to derail a conversation. Dr. Tom Philp is the founder of Trauma Free Relationship. He has spent decades working with couples and individuals to help them resolve their relational and attachment traumas and build a safer, more secure relationship. Trauma Free Relationship Website: https://traumafreerelationship.com/ FREE Relational Trauma Self-Assessment : https://traumafreerelationship.com/trauma-self-check-guide Find us on Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/traumafreerelationship Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumafreerelationship/ Follow Us on YouTube: YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drtomphilp Relationship Cycle Reset If you are interested in learning more about how to break the painful cycles that keep you stuck in your relationship. You can book a clarity call and find out more. There is not obligation. Sign up for a Clarity Call: https://go.linku.co/widget/booking/XNhN1z7S88osZdl9Eziq

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