Episode 66: Slow the Hell Down: Rest, Boundaries, and Choosing You

About this episode

The episode discusses the emotional burdens Black women face and the importance of rest and boundaries with guest Chanel B. Brooks.

In this powerful episode of Anomalous Black Women , Bina and Dr. TJ sit down with Chanel B. Brooks, founder of the Soft Life Movement and author of If You Need to Slow the Hell Down was a Person . Together, they unpack the emotional weight Black women have been conditioned to carry and the hidden cost of always being “the strong one.” From survival mode and burnout to boundaries, rest, femininity, guilt, and self-worth, this conversation goes far beyond social media’s version of the “soft life.” Chanel opens up about divorce, single motherhood, workplace pressure, and the personal awakening that inspired her D.A.M.N. Method, a framework centered on digesting emotions, accepting truth, moving intentionally, and taking note of your healing journey. This episode is for every Black woman who’s exhausted from carrying everything, proving herself, and pouring into everyone else first. If you’ve ever struggled to rest without guilt, say no without explaining yourself, or choose yourself unapologetically… this conversation is for you. Connect with Chanel B. Brooks at https://chanelbbrooks.com ! Join us in this safe space! Please leave comments! We hope you enjoy it! It's just a…

People in this episode

Hosts: Bina Banks, Dr. Tonya Johnson

Guest: Chanel B. Brooks

Topics covered

• rest
• boundaries
• self-worth
• emotional health
• Black women
• burnout
• femininity

Keywords

• Black women
• self-care
• boundaries
• emotional weight
• burnout
• D.A.M.N. Method
• soft life
• guilt
• personal awakening

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Soft Life Movement

Books & works: If You Need to Slow the Hell Down was a Person

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