160. When You Break Up With A Dom Who Looms Large

From ask a sub by Lina Dune

April 3, 2026 · 20 min · Season 4 · Episode 13

About this episode

The episode discusses how to regain confidence as a submissive after a breakup with a dominant partner who is well-regarded in the local BDSM scene.

A caller wants to know how to feel confident as a sub in your local scene after a friendship breakup with a Dom who seems to be the golden boy of said scene. We talk about how to claim space that's rightly yours, not give Doms too much power after a dynamic has ended, and how to remember no one is thinking about anything but themselves! But in a freeing way! Join us for the Deep Dive with author S.T. Gibson on 4/18! Read ' Where I'm At With Shame' free on Substack Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo. Get your slot at Ask A Sub Office Hours here . Or join Patreon on the BFF tier to get an included session every month. Subscribe to the subby substack here . See the paid post archive here . Sign up for Lyft here ! Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune…

People in this episode

Host: Lina Dune

Guest: S.T. Gibson

Topics covered

confidence
submissive dynamics
friendship breakup
local scene
power dynamics
self-perception

Keywords

submissive
dominant
breakup
confidence
BDSM
local scene
power dynamics
self-esteem

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