This Is Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong People

About this episode

Anita discusses how the Enneagram can enhance self-awareness and personal growth, exploring the impact of childhood on identity and relationships.

What if everything that triggers you… is actually about you?In this deep and eye-opening conversation, Anita breaks down how the Enneagram can help us understand our true personality – not the one we've adapted to survive. We unpack how childhood shapes our identity, why we mould ourselves to be liked, and how to break free from patterns that no longer serve us.We explore how self-awareness through tools like the Enneagram, shadow work, and emotional intelligence can help us take true responsibility for our lives – and even change the world.This one goes beyond personal growth – it’s about human connection, leadership, and how the systems we build start with who we are.🔔 Subscribe for more podcasts on self-awareness, personal growth and emotional intelligence.⏱ Timestamps00:00 – No one taught us how to be ourselves01:30 – What is the Enneagram & why it’s different03:40 – Childhood experiences shape personality07:00 – Why we mould ourselves to be liked10:00 – The true intention behind our behaviours14:50 – Do we choose our personality or are we born with it?17:00 – How types pair in relationships21:45 – The "Helper" type and toxic dynamics24:30 – Awareness gives you…

People in this episode

Host: Matt Southam

Guest: Anita

Topics covered

• self-awareness
• personal growth
• emotional intelligence
• human connection
• leadership
• childhood experiences

Keywords

• Enneagram
• self-awareness
• personal growth
• emotional intelligence
• childhood experiences
• leadership
• human connection

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Enneagram

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