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How shame, withdrawal, and approval-based parenting quietly affect self-worth.Have you ever found yourself saying things like, "I'm disappointed in you," giving your child the silent treatment after a difficult moment, or withholding affection until they apologized or behaved differently?Most parents have.Not because we don't love our children.But because many of us were raised with the belief that approval, affection, and connection should be earned.And without realizing it, we can sometimes pass those same messages on to our own kids.In this episode of the Raising Eyebrows Miniseries, Celia Kibler and Dr. Kailey Buller explore one of the most common and often unintentional parenting mistakes: conditional love.Because every child needs guidance, accountability, and boundaries.But they also need to know that their worth is never tied to their behavior, achievements, mistakes, or ability to meet our expectations.In this honest and thought-provoking conversation, Celia and Dr. Kailey unpack how shame, withdrawal, criticism, and approval-based parenting can quietly shape a child's sense of self. They also discuss what it looks like to hold children accountable while still communicating unconditional love, safety, and belonging.In this episode, you'll hear:What conditional love looks like in everyday parenting momentsHow shame differs from healthy accountability and disciplineWhy children need to feel loved even when their behavior needs correctingThe lasting impact of approval-based parenting on confidence and self-worthHow withdrawal, criticism, and emotional distance can affect parent-child relationshipsWhy mistakes are opportunities for learning—not evidence of a child's valuePractical ways to set boundaries without using shame or guiltHow to build stronger emotional safety and connection within your familyOne of the most powerful reminders in this episode:A child's behavior may need correction, but their worth never does.That doesn't mean there should be no consequences.It doesn't mean lowering expectations.And it definitely doesn't mean letting children do whatever they want.It means separating who your child is from what your child does.Because children who know they are loved even when they struggle, fail, or make mistakes develop the confidence to learn, grow, and take responsibility for their actions.And children who feel emotionally safe are far more likely to come to us when they need support the most.If you've ever wondered whether your discipline approach is building connection or creating distance, or if you're trying to break parenting patterns you experienced growing up, this episode offers practical insights and compassionate reminders that can help you parent with greater clarity and confidence.Tune in to this episode of Raising Eyebrows your weekly dose of sanity in a world full of parenting noise.We're so glad you're here.To stay connected with Celia Kibler, follow @beabetterparentdotcom and explore more support through the Be A Better Parent Skool community at skool.com/beabetterparent.You can also connect with Dr. Kailey Buller at @vitalswithdrbuller for thoughtful, evidence-based support around motherhood, family health, and raising children with confidence.And if you want parenting support right when real life is happening, be sure to download the Be A Better Parent app. It offers on-demand guidance, practical tools, and real-time support to help you respond with more calm, clarity, and confidence right when you need it most.

We’ve all seen the headlines about the mountain of college debt, and it’s enough to make any parent freeze in their tracks. It’s so easy to feel overwhelmed and just push the conversation into a corner, but avoidance is a giant monster that only grows the longer you wait. My guest, Brian S. Eyster, the visionary behind the G.R.A.D. Process, joined me to pull back the curtain on how you can navigate the path to higher learning without sacrificing your own future or your hard-earned retirement. We talked about how a problem is really just a topic you haven't sliced into small enough pieces yet, and how facing the reality of college costs now, rather than waiting until senior year — is the greatest gift you can give your future self. Brian walked us through his simple, powerful system designed to recapture costs and inefficiencies that most families don't even know they're losing. We dove into the "G.R.A.D." acronym - Gathering insights, Recapturing costs, Achieving results, and Direct monitoring to show that paying for school is not a "set it and forget it" Thanksgiving turkey. It’s about packaging and positioning your child for the best offers while making the IRS a teammate through legal and ethical tax strategies. We even dispelled the myth that you have to write a massive check upfront; just like your house or your car, college can be financed in a way that is congruent with your actual cash flow so you don't end up with a "pile of lost money" in your 60s. The most important takeaway for every parent is that you need to have a system in place to remove the chaos and the 11 p.m. arguments with your spouse. We talked about the power of setting clear expectations for our kids, teaching them that water isn't free and money is a real, finite resource. By creating unity between parents and having an expert like Brian fight for you against universities that might low-ball your offer, you can move from a place of anxiety to one of empowerment. It’s time to stop flying by the seat of your pants and start building a path where your children become the confident, self-reliant adults we need in this world. Start Your Strategy: Visit EssentialStrategies.net to explore the Resource tab and book your 20-minute "Synergy Call" with Brian. Join the Community: Become a member of BeABetterParent.com and get exclusive access to our app and tools for a calm, happy home. Go to Skool.com/BeABetterParentShare the Love: If this episode helped you breathe a little easier, please share it with a friend who is also navigating the college journey!

Holiday meltdowns, money stress, family drama, and kids who suddenly “need” everything they see? 🎁😵‍💫This special Holiday Stress Class Replay from our This Holiday Reset Your Stress series on the Be A Better Parent Podcast is your gentle, practical reset button.Recorded live with real parents, this episode walks you through simple tools you can use in the moment — even when emotions are high and time is short.In this replay, you’ll discover:90-second stress resets you can do anywhere (and how to teach them to your kids)A simple daily gratitude practice that actually sticksHow to talk back to the thoughts that say, “I’m failing,” by asking one powerful question: “Is that true?”What you can control (and what you really can’t) so you stop carrying the whole world on your shouldersA quick “What went right today?” routine to end your day calmer, more connected, and a lot kinder to yourselfThis isn’t about creating a “perfect” holiday.It’s about creating a calmer you — so your kids get a calmer home.💛 Want to join us live for the remaining Holiday Stress classes (and get access to the replays)?Head over to CalmTheSeason.com and save your spot.*******************************************************Are you ready to STOP YELLING AT YOUR CHILD in just 21 Days? Join my newest program at low introductory pricing... go to ⁠QUITYELLING.COM⁠1. Need more help? Let's grab some coffee or tea and talk. Go to TalkWithCelia.com and choose the time that works for you.2. Looking for a manual for parenting your child (now in English & Spanish)? It's finally here and you can grab your copy of my latest parenting & children’s books today!3. Become a Member of my TRANQUILITY TRIBE and STOP YELLING Once & For All.4. Read my latest article to find out how to stop yelling... https://celiaArticle.com5. Looking to be part of a fun free and informative FB community (without all the bitching)?... join us in Pumped Up Parenting6. Love YouTube? Do you know there are lots of parenting videos, story time videos for you and your kids, as well as some great family workout videos? All on Pumped Up Parenting with Celia Kibler7. Follow me on Instagram and TikTok8. Join me on my newest platform PEANUT: Connecting women across fertility & motherhood9. Get my parenting worksheet and other resources at PumpedUpParenting.Etsy.com10. Join us on ⁠THE INTERNATIONAL DAY OF CALM⁠, watch the full replay on our YouTube Channel @DayofCalmTake the Pledge, Support our Mission of the Day of Calm Foundation to SOOTHE THE ANGER & RAGE AT THE HUMAN CORE as we work to end senseless violence against our kids.Support our school in Uganda, Share the Day, Attend a Calm Class or Parenting Class and feel great!

We’re beginning a new chapter together. Pumped Up Parenting is now Be A Better Parent, and this first episode under our new name leans right into the question so many parents ask in quiet moments: “Why do I feel like I’m failing, and what can I actually do about it?” I take you through the real-life pressure points — those nights you wish you hadn’t yelled, the sleep and mealtime battles, the comparison that makes everyone else look like they’ve got it all together, and the overwhelm of trying “all the advice” for a day or two and wondering why nothing sticks.From there, we slow everything down and get practical. You’ll hear why consistency — not perfection — turns the tide, how loving limits and clear boundaries make kids feel safe, and how teaching consequences works better than punishments that only add fear and frustration. We’ll also talk about the tantrum – negotiation loop and why giving in “to keep the peace” keeps the cycle going, plus exactly what it looks like to hold a calm, steady no and let the storm pass. Most importantly, we look at the model our kids are learning from every day, us. When we regulate our emotions, they learn how to regulate theirs. Everything we do gives them permission to do the same, so together we practice tools that build calm, respect, and trust — one real moment at a time.As we step into Be A Better Parent, I’m thrilled to share that the Be A Better Parent app is now live on the App Store and Google Play. It’s your in-the-moment guide for today’s fast-paced parenting. Quick steps for tough moments, bite-size lessons you can use on the go, and everyday support to help you stay consistent when life gets loud. For more info, visit BeABetterParent.com.*******************************************************Are you ready to STOP YELLING AT YOUR CHILD in just 21 Days? Join my newest program at low introductory pricing... go to ⁠QUITYELLING.COM⁠1. Need more help? Let's grab some coffee or tea and talk. Go to TalkWithCelia.com and choose the time that works for you.2. Looking for a manual for parenting your child (now in English & Spanish)? It's finally here and you can grab your copy of my latest parenting & children’s books today!3. Become a Member of my TRANQUILITY TRIBE and STOP YELLING Once & For All.4. Read my latest article to find out how to stop yelling... https://celiaArticle.com5. Looking to be part of a fun free and informative FB community (without all the bitching)?... join us in Pumped Up Parenting6. Love YouTube? Do you know there are lots of parenting videos, story time videos for you and your kids, as well as some great family workout videos? All on Pumped Up Parenting with Celia Kibler7. Follow me on Instagram and TikTok8. Join me on my newest platform PEANUT: Connecting women across fertility & motherhood9. Get my parenting worksheet and other resources at PumpedUpParenting.Etsy.com10. Join us on ⁠THE INTERNATIONAL DAY OF CALM⁠, watch the full replay on our YouTube Channel @DayofCalmTake the Pledge, Support our Mission of the Day of Calm Foundation to SOOTHE THE ANGER & RAGE AT THE HUMAN CORE as we work to end senseless violence against our kids.Support our school in Uganda, Share the Day, Attend a Calm Class or Parenting Class and feel great!

Parenting is never perfectly balanced, and sometimes it is not even close.In this heart-opening conversation, I sit down with Daryl Potter, a dad and author who raised two kids on very different paths: one with complex medical needs and one who still needed his own place in the spotlight. You will hear how his family navigated daily medical crises and palliative care while keeping his son seen, secure, and deeply loved.We talk about simple habits that change everything. Schedule real one-on-one time. Take your kids on date nights even when life feels chaotic. Keep small promises that matter, like a nightly thirty-minute game session even if video games are not your thing. These tiny rituals add up to a confident, connected child who knows they are special on their own.When family support fell through, Daryl and his wife built a chosen family and created a new kind of vacation rhythm so each parent could rest while their daughter received the care she needed. Their story models kindness, commitment, flexibility, and courage for kids and adults alike. Press play for perspective and practical steps you can use tonight.Connect with Daryl: Visit darylpotter.com for his books and more ways to get in touch.*******************************************************Are you ready to STOP YELLING AT YOUR CHILD in just 21 Days? Join my newest program at low introductory pricing... go to ⁠QUITYELLING.COM⁠1. Need more help? Let's grab some coffee or tea and talk. Go to TalkWithCelia.com and choose the time that works for you.2. Looking for a manual for parenting your child (now in English & Spanish)? It's finally here and you can grab your copy of my latest parenting & children’s books today!3. Become a Member of my TRANQUILITY TRIBE and STOP YELLING Once & For All.4. Read my latest article to find out how to stop yelling... https://celiaArticle.com5. Looking to be part of a fun free and informative FB community (without all the bitching)?... join us in Pumped Up Parenting6. Love YouTube? Do you know there are lots of parenting videos, story time videos for you and your kids, as well as some great family workout videos? All on Pumped Up Parenting with Celia Kibler7. Follow me on Instagram and TikTok8. Join me on my newest platform PEANUT: Connecting women across fertility & motherhood9. Get my parenting worksheet and other resources at PumpedUpParenting.Etsy.com10. Join us on ⁠THE INTERNATIONAL DAY OF CALM⁠, watch the full replay on our YouTube Channel @DayofCalmTake the Pledge, Support our Mission of the Day of Calm Foundation to SOOTHE THE ANGER & RAGE AT THE HUMAN CORE as we work to end senseless violence against our kids.Support our school in Uganda, Share the Day, Attend a Calm Class or Parenting Class and feel great!

Parenting is influence — whether it’s you, a friend, a teacher, or the endless scroll of the internet, someone is shaping your child’s beliefs, behaviors, and future. In this special episode of the Pumped Up Parenting Podcast, you’ll hear Celia Kibler’s full, unfiltered talk from The Intentional Parent Annual Conference 2025. With her signature mix of warmth, humor, and practical wisdom, Celia shows you how to become the primary and most positive influence in your child’s life replacing yelling and control with connection, respect, and calm guidance that truly lasts.From the difference between control and influence to the four key pillars that help children thrive — connection, consistency, calm communication, and role modeling, this inspiring talk is packed with real-life examples, actionable steps, and truths every parent needs to hear. You’ll discover why your example speaks louder than any lecture, how to set expectations that lift your child up instead of tearing them down, and the small, consistent actions that turn chaos into cooperation.Whether you’re parenting toddlers or teens, you’ll leave this episode feeling encouraged, equipped, and ready to create a home where respect is mutual, laughter is frequent, and love speaks louder than yelling. This is your invitation to parent with intention and to influence the next generation in the most positive way possible.*******************************************************Are you ready to STOP YELLING AT YOUR CHILD in just 21 Days? Join my newest program at low introductory pricing... go to ⁠QUITYELLING.COM⁠1. Need more help? Let's grab some coffee or tea and talk. Go to TalkWithCelia.com and choose the time that works for you.2. Looking for a manual for parenting your child (now in English & Spanish)? It's finally here and you can grab your copy of my latest parenting & children’s books today!3. Become a Member of my TRANQUILITY TRIBE and STOP YELLING Once & For All.4. Read my latest article to find out how to stop yelling... https://celiaArticle.com5. Looking to be part of a fun free and informative FB community (without all the bitching)?... join us in Pumped Up Parenting6. Love YouTube? Do you know there are lots of parenting videos, story time videos for you and your kids, as well as some great family workout videos? All on Pumped Up Parenting with Celia Kibler7. Follow me on Instagram and TikTok8. Join me on my newest platform PEANUT: Connecting women across fertility & motherhood9. Get my parenting worksheet and other resources at PumpedUpParenting.Etsy.com10. Join us on ⁠THE INTERNATIONAL DAY OF CALM⁠, watch the full replay on our YouTube Channel @DayofCalmTake the Pledge, Support our Mission of the Day of Calm Foundation to SOOTHE THE ANGER & RAGE AT THE HUMAN CORE as we work to end senseless violence against our kids.Support our school in Uganda, Share the Day, Attend a Calm Class or Parenting Class and feel great!

If you only listen to one parenting podcast this year—let it be this one.Don’t miss this powerful conversation with world-renowned brain expert Dr. Robert Melillo, best-selling author of Disconnected Kids and creator of the Melillo Method, whose groundbreaking work in brain health has transformed the lives of thousands of children and families. In this episode, we go beyond the labels—ADHD, autism, OCD, tics, anxiety—and explore what’s really happening inside your child’s brain. If you're concerned about screen time, emotional regulation, missed milestones, or rising diagnoses—this is the must-hear episode that could change everything.We talk about what pediatricians often overlook, why crawling is a milestone (despite what the CDC now says), and how resilience—not overprotection—is the key to a mentally strong child. Dr. Melillo and I also dive into parenting styles, the long-term consequences of gentle parenting when taken too far, and how your family’s structure can either support or sabotage your child’s development.Connect with Dr. Robert Melillo:Website: www.drrobertmelillo.comEmail: info@drrobertmelillo.comInstagram: @drrobertmelillo You can book appointments, explore his books, or follow him for more expert insights.Whether you’re parenting a toddler or a teen, this episode is filled with truth, hope, and science-backed strategies to help your child thrive — emotionally, neurologically, and behaviorally.Don’t miss this podcast. If you're gonna listen, make it this one.What They’re Not Telling You About Screens… and So Much More.*******************************************************Are you ready to STOP YELLING AT YOUR CHILD in just 21 Days? Join my newest program at low introductory pricing... go to ⁠QUITYELLING.COM⁠1. Need more help? Let's grab some coffee or tea and talk. Go to TalkWithCelia.com and choose the time that works for you.2. Looking for a manual for parenting your child (now in English & Spanish)? It's finally here and you can grab your copy of my latest parenting & children’s books today!3. Become a Member of my TRANQUILITY TRIBE and STOP YELLING Once & For All.4. Read my latest article to find out how to stop yelling... https://celiaArticle.com5. Looking to be part of a fun free and informative FB community (without all the bitching)?... join us in Pumped Up Parenting6. Love YouTube? Do you know there are lots of parenting videos, story time videos for you and your kids, as well as some great family workout videos? All on Pumped Up Parenting with Celia Kibler7. Follow me on Instagram and TikTok8. Join me on my newest platform PEANUT: Connecting women across fertility & motherhood9. Get my parenting worksheet and other resources at PumpedUpParenting.Etsy.com10. Join us on ⁠THE INTERNATIONAL DAY OF CALM⁠, watch the full replay on our YouTube Channel @DayofCalmTake the Pledge, Support our Mission of the Day of Calm Foundation to SOOTHE THE ANGER & RAGE AT THE HUMAN CORE as we work to end senseless violence against our kids.Support our school in Uganda, Share the Day, Attend a Calm Class or Parenting Class and feel great!

Are you raising kids who truly understand the power of giving? In this heart-filled episode of the Pumped Up Parenting Podcast, I’m joined by John Bromley, founder of Charitable Impact, to talk about how families can build a culture of generosity right at home and why it’s one of the best things you can do for your child’s development. Whether you’re already giving back or just getting started, this episode is packed with inspiration and practical ways to raise kids who give with intention, compassion, and confidence.We dive into how charitable habits are built through conversations, modeling, and hands-on practice even for kids as young as five. John shares how Charitable Impact’s “Charitable Allowance” program helps parents teach financial literacy, delayed gratification, and social responsibility all through the joy of giving. To learn more or get started, visit charitableimpact.com or connect with John and his team on social media @wearecharitable.Because raising kids who care about the world… starts at home. *******************************************************Are you ready to STOP YELLING AT YOUR CHILD in just 21 Days? Join my newest program at low introductory pricing... go to ⁠QUITYELLING.COM⁠1. Need more help? Let's grab some coffee or tea and talk. Go to TalkWithCelia.com and choose the time that works for you.2. Looking for a manual for parenting your child (now in English & Spanish)? It's finally here and you can grab your copy of my latest parenting & children’s books today!3. Become a Member of my TRANQUILITY TRIBE and STOP YELLING Once & For All.4. Read my latest article to find out how to stop yelling... https://celiaArticle.com5. Looking to be part of a fun free and informative FB community (without all the bitching)?... join us in Pumped Up Parenting6. Love YouTube? Do you know there are lots of parenting videos, story time videos for you and your kids, as well as some great family workout videos? All on Pumped Up Parenting with Celia Kibler7. Follow me on Instagram and TikTok8. Join me on my newest platform PEANUT: Connecting women across fertility & motherhood9. Get my parenting worksheet and other resources at PumpedUpParenting.Etsy.com10. Join us on ⁠THE INTERNATIONAL DAY OF CALM⁠, watch the full replay on our YouTube Channel @DayofCalmTake the Pledge, Support our Mission of the Day of Calm Foundation to SOOTHE THE ANGER & RAGE AT THE HUMAN CORE as we work to end senseless violence against our kids.Support our school in Uganda, Share the Day, Attend a Calm Class or Parenting Class and feel great!