Becoming: HER with Nikki Spoelstra

Welcome back to Becoming: HER! In this episode, I sit down with Lauren Allan, a proud Miamian, mom, and Team Leader of the Jo-Ann Forster Team, one of South Florida’s most trusted family-run real estate groups. Lauren shares her inspiring path from social work to real estate, how she carries forward her mother Jo-Ann’s powerful legacy, and what it means to lead with empathy, connection, and confidence in business and at home.You’ll hear a candid conversation about legacy, blended families, and finding grace through change, plus, Lauren offers a peek behind the curtain of the Miami real estate world with practical insights for buyers, sellers, and dreamers alike. Tune in! In this episode…Being a facilitatorRelationshipsSales industryThrillFulfilling a legacyEnergy exchangeSelf- awareness/ finding yourselfGrove vs. GablesBlending familiesAccountability & humility Quotes“My mom taught me that real estate isn’t about houses, it’s about people, relationships, and trust.” - Lauren Allen “My parents were very good at letting me be me, and that was a gift and an honor.” - Lauren Allen “The level of your peace comes down to your ability to face change with grace.” - Nikki Spo“Every birthday I ask myself, do I like myself more now than I did last year?” - Lauren Allen Timestamps:0:00 - 2:30 | Intro2:30 - 6:50 | Lauren’s journey6:50 - 11:15 | Facilitator11:15 - 14:55 | Relationship-centric14:55 - 19:50 | Legacy19:50 - 24:00 | Energetic exchange24:30 - 33:15 | Lauren’s favorite neighborhood33:15 - 35:35 | South Miami35:35 - 40:40 | Staying grounded40:40 - 43:55 | Cash offer43:55 - 46:45 | Condo market46:45 - 53:10 | Lauren’s personal life53:10 - 57:55 | Dating after divorce57:55 - 58:55 | Accountability & humility58:55 - 1:01:00 | What does becoming her mean to Lauren1:01:00 - 1:03:30 | Outro Connect with Lauren Allenhttps://www.joannforsterteam.com/@laurengallan / @joannforsterteam Connect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to Becoming: HER, the podcast where we peel back the layers of what it really means to live, lead, and love as the most confident version of ourselves. I’m your host, Nikki Spoelstra—and today’s guest embodies that journey in the most powerful way.Simone Knego is the award-winning author of The Extraordinary UnOrdinary You and co-host of Her Unshakeable Confidence, the hit intergenerational podcast she hosts with her daughter. She’s climbed Mount Kilimanjaro, raised six children in a beautifully blended, multicultural family, and built a global platform around one truth—that confidence isn’t about perfection, it’s about showing up real, raw, and unapologetically you.In this episode, we’re talking about what it means to lead from the inside out, stop waiting for permission, and find your voice—even when the world tells you to shrink. Let’s dive in with the extraordinary, unordinary Simone Knego. In this episode…Learning from your children Adoption Crohn's If its mentionable, its manageable Book of life Family unit Business of being marriedThe kitchen table leadership Quotes“When you have some sort of struggle it doesn’t define you, it’s just a piece of who you are.” - Simone Knego“Self-care is NEVER selfish.” - Simone Knego “I often call it the business of being married because it is more than just love, it is a lot of work that goes into keeping and sustaining a relationship.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:40 | Intro2:40 - 4:00 | Simone’s story 4:00 - 4:50 | Six children 4:50 - 6:25 | Crohn's disease 6:25 - 11:00 | How your children shape your identity 11:00 - 13:15 | Equal attention for your children 13:15 - 16:50 | Subconscious assigned role in a family unit 16:50 - 19:40 | Mom’s taking time for themselves 19:40 - 21:50 | Husband involvement 21:50 - 26:35 | The kitchen table leadership 26:35 - 29:55 | Extraordinary 29:55 - 36:20 | Mindset shift 36:20 - 38:35 | Moving forward 38:35 - 41:45 | Living up to others expectations41:45 - 49:45 | You don’t need permission to be yourself 49:45 - 1:04:36 | REAL If this conversation spoke to you in the audience, take a moment today to reflect on where you might still be waiting for a green light or for your own permission slip to get moving. –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW. Connect with Simone Knego https://simoneknego.com/@simoneknego Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome listeners! I am thrilled to introduce today's guest, Ashley Arguello co-ceo and co-founder of the innovative new social navigation app canwe. She is a former division one basketball player who shifted to a double major at NYU who combines strategic insight with genuine heart. This week Ashley and I are talking about everything from what it’s like to work with your mans, sustaining friendships through life changes, and what it means to Ashley to be a modern matriarch. Tune in! In this episode…Marriage is a team True forgiveness Deifying Us against the problem Honor & humility Success Having a mission together Being seen, heard, & understood Being feminine is beautiful Quotes“Without God in your marriage, it is impossible.” - Ashley Arguello“True forgiveness is SO important in marriage.” - Ashley Arguello“I think that there is room for all of us at the top and that there is more that can happen when we collaborate rather than compete.” - Nikki Spo“The most successful men are the ones who lift their female partner up with them.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:10 | Intro 2:10 - 7:10 | What it means to be married 7:10 - 11:15 | Forgiveness 11:15 - 15:55 | Canwe app 15:55 - 18:40 | Sustaining the faith to follow your passion 18:40 - 19:55 | Collaboration over competition 19:55 - 22:00 | Working with your mans 22:00 - 25:55 | Honoring each other in a marriage 25:55 - 29:05 | Recognition & appreciation 29:05 - 31:45 | Projection 31:45 - 37:25 | Faith based marriage 37:24 - 42:35 | Motherhood & working 42:35 - 46:40 | Wanting stability 46:40 - 47:35 | Jealousy 47:35 - 49:40 | Being feminine is beautiful 49:40 - 51:46 | How Ashely and Ernesto have influenced others 51:46 - 54:55 | Integrity 54:55 - 1:01:15 | Friendships 1:01:15 - 1:04:50 | Growth, connection, or transformation 1:04:50 - 1:07:05 | Outro –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW. Connect with Ashley Arguello canwe.app@ashleytaylorarguello@canwe_app Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome BACK to Becoming: HER and part 2 of our 3-part series with Rachel Kipnis. This week, we’re diving into one of the most important steps in the divorce process: choosing the RIGHT divorce attorney. Rachel shares what questions to ask, what red flags to look out for, and how to find someone who aligns with your values and goals so you can move forward with confidence and clarity.Tune in to hear more! In this episode… Divorce rings Strategy The RIGHT attorney Non-negotiables Marriage roles Qualities in an attorney Asking WHYHigh net worth divorce Quotes“The person that you choose to represent you not only because of their abilities and strategy, but it will change how you feel about the experience. If you have the right person, they will have a lasting effect on your life.” - Rachel Kipnis “You want someone who is in your corner, but I can be in your corner and still say no to you.” - Rachel Kipnis Timetamps: 0:00 - 1:40 | Intro 1:40 - 3:00 | Divorce rings 3:00 - 5:10 | Explaining divorce to kids 5:10 - 6:20 | Choosing the right attorney 6:20 - 10:15 | Not wanting a yes-attorney 10:15 - 15:20 | What are the questions to ask15:20 - 17:00 | Consult more than one attorney 17:00 - 18:50 | Bitter feelings 18:50 - 22:30 | Types of divorce processes 22:30 - 24:20 | Qualities to look for in an attorney as a woman 24:20 - 27:30 | Asking WHY 27:30 - 31:10 | Knowing yourself 31:10 - 39:10 | High net worth divorce 39:10 - 40:30 | Don’t hire a friend 40:30 - 47:40 | Weighing strategy with personality 47:40 - 43:40 | Emotional support 43:40 - | Things CAN and WILL get better –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW. Connect with Rachel @thesplitstrategist Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What’s up everybody and welcome BACK to the Becoming: HER podcast where we talk about becoming the BOLDEST and most unapologetic versions of ourselves. This week I am thrilled to introduce my guest, Tanya Jane. Tanya is a powerhouse mindset coach who helps high-achieving women 10x their lives, businesses, and bank accounts without falling into the trap of constant hustle. She believes in building success from the inside out, and her work is all about creating alignment freedom and abundance without the burnout. Get ready because this conversation is going to be packed with tools that you can apply right away to elevate every area of your life!In this episode… The hustle 10x your life Success energetics Persistence What lights YOU up Mindset Quotes“The mentality is hustle, struggle, sacrifice to get you to the success that you desire.” - Tanya Jane “Those dopamine hits keep you around longer than they should. You gotta know when to leave.” - Nikki Spo “If you want to begin to 10x your life, you have to be open to changing the way you do things. Breaking patterns.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:40 | Intro 2:40 - 8:15 | Without the hustle 8:15 - 17:25 | What lights YOU up 17:25 - 21:05 | What the f**k do you like?!21:05 - 25:05 | Happiness 25:05 - 25:55 | Comfort in familiarity 25:55 - 30:40 | Attaching meaning 30:40 - 34:10 | Act how you wanna feel vs. fake it till you make it 34:10 - 39:15 | Commitment to the misery 39:15 - 46:30 | Glowing UP 46:30 - 53:00 | Mindset 53:00 - 55:00 | Fear as fuel 55:00 - | 3 action steps –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW. Connect with Tanya @thetanyajane Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Ladies and gents welcome back! This week's guest is a force of transformation, Silvia Subirana. She is a clinical psychologist and the head of content development at MyDry30, a revolutionary app helping people rethink their relationship with alcohol not through restrictment, but rather rediscovery, fulfillment, and change. Get ready to learn tangible tools for emotional wellness, intentional living, and how to lead from inside out! In this episode… Demographics Binge drinking SoberCURIOUS Mocktails Controlled drinking Habits Changing the people, places, & things Urge surfing Quotes“People like that feeling of being drunk. I always say that you can have that without the substances.” - Silivia Subriana“People are looking for festivity when they are drinking.” - Nikki Spo “Being sober curious is way more different than pursuing sobriety.” - Silivia SubrianaTimestamps: 0:00 - 2:00 | Intro 2:00 - 3:55 | Demographics 3:55 - 6:20 | Generations 6:20 - 9:00 | Mocktail culture 9:50 - 12:40 | Reconnecting with self 12:40 - 17:10 | Stop & think 17:10 - 20:45 | Changing the people, places, & things 20:45 - 27:10 | Resources 27:10 - 30:35 | Turning to a higher power 30:35 - 33:55 | Urge surfing 33:55 - 36:05 | Control 36:05 - 39:40 | Unprocessed emotions 39:40 - 42:10 | Making a change 42:10 - 45:45 | OutroJoin Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Silvia Subrianahttps://um.app/ Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hey friends, so— a bit of a heavier topic today but one, as parents, we have to consider: protecting our kids from predators online and… IRL.With kids going back to school in the next few weeks, I've been thinking a lot about how I want to show up as a parent, especially as my kids become more and more exposed to tech. That includes having tough conversations that maybe make me as a parent uncomfortable. This week's guest Erin Williamson is the chief programs and strategy officer at love146 where she leads efforts to prevent child trafficking and exploitation. With over 20 years of experience in social services and child protection, Erin has developed trauma informed programs that have reached thousands of vulnerable youth across the U.S. In this episode…Lightness with heavy topics Warning signs Seeking survival ShameBeing informed Vulnerability High-level psychological manipulation Quotes“Everybody has been seeking some sort of survival since the beginning of humankind.” - Nikki Spo “An informed parent is always going to be in a better position even if it's hard to hear the information.” - Nikki Spo “We have to figure out how to raise children with the knowledge that we have without raising them to be scared of the world.” - Erin Williamson “If you’re old enough to have a phone, you’re old enough to have these conversations.” Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:35 | Intro 2:35 - 4:35 | Lightness with heavy topics 4:35 - 8:55 | Erin’s journey 8:55 - 11:45 | Seeking survival11:45 - 13:20 | Being informed 13:20 - 18:15 | How this is happening 18:15 - 23:55 | Rule breaking 23:55 - 26:00 | Being believed 26:00 - 33:10 | When we know better, we do better 33:10 - 35:00 | A safe adult 35:00 - 39:00 | Internet 39:00 - 44:35 | Age restrictions 44:35 - 47:40 | Making an impact 47:40 - 49:28 | Outro ResourcesTo Raise a Boy Wait Until 8th Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Erin Williamson https://love146.org/team_member/erin-williamson/ @love146 Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcoming everyone to another empowering episode of Becoming: HER. This week we are honored to have Jana Boyko join us. Jana is a celebrated entrepreneur speaker and author who has guided over 100 brands and businesses ranging from startups to established enterprises. She is the founder of all of her business, a coaching practice that is dedicated to supporting women transitioning from employees to entrepreneurs. Tune in to find out more! In this episode… Risking it allFears EntrepreneurshipDesires Speaking up Foundational plan Quotes:“I do find a tremendous amount of freedom in being able to run my own business.” - Nikki Spo“Entrepreneurship is actually a very natural thing if you think about it, we have been entrepreneurs since the very beginning creating things of value and receiving value in return.” - Jana Boyko “Allowing ourselves to sit in that place of desire is where the best business comes from.” - Jana Boyko “In many ways, our businesses will tell us what they want to become.” - Jana Boyko Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:15 | Intro 2:15 - 5:00 | Jana’s journey 5:00 - 6:55 | Fears of risking it all6:55 - 9:30 | Rooted in service 9:30 - 11:25 | Speaking up 11:25 - 12:55 | Agility 12:55 - 17:20 | First steps to transition from employee to entrepreneur 17:20 - 19:30 | Narrowing yourself down 19:30 - 21:40 | Jobs are not meant to be stable 21:40 - 23:15 | Needing a boost 23:15 - 26:05 | How essential is a business plan 26:05 - 28:50 | Developing a business plan 28:50 - 29:55 | Journaling 29:55 - 32:05 | How do women approach an entrepreneurial lifestyle 32:05 - 37:40 | Obstacles 37:40 - 40:30 | Having the grit 40:30 - 41:20 | Activating the child mindset 41:20 - 42:35 | Actionable advice 42:35 - 44:23 | Outro Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Jana Boyko https://www.janaboyko.com/ @bedsidebusinessplan / @janaboyko Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy