Becoming: HER with Nikki Spoelstra

Welcome back to Becoming: HER, the podcast where we explore the real, raw, and remarkable journey of stepping into who we’re meant to be.Today, I’m joined by Lisa Candera, a single mom, attorney, ADHD-er, and autism mom coach whose work is changing the narrative around resilience, motherhood, and self-regulation.Lisa is the host of The Autism Mom Podcast, which ranks in the top 2%, and her upcoming book dives deep into what it means to be a “solid object” for your child, not fixing, not co-escalating, but standing steady in the storm.In a world that tells moms to “tough it out,” Lisa is helping women rewrite that story, to find peace not through pushing harder, but through accepting change and regulating ourselves first.We’re going to talk about the myths that keep autism moms stuck in guilt and shame, the “tough it out” mentality that’s quietly burning women out, and what real strength and peace can look like when we lead from self-awareness and compassion. Tune in! In this episode…Hope to parents Toughing it out vs. not toughing it out Being a GOOD human being Labels The evolvement of autism Support groups The autism umbrella Toolbox Quotes “It really takes self-aware adults to raise self-aware children.” - Nikki Spo “The first step is to understand what your triggers are as a parent. It's never the behavior, it's always so much underneath that.” - Lisa Candera Timestamps: 0:00 - 4:00 | Intro 4:00 - 4:50 | Bottle lessons up & deliver them 4:50 - 8:40 | Lisa’s perspective on resilience 8:40 - 10:45 | The labels…10:45 - 12:10 | Self-regulation as an adult 12:10 - 20:25 | How autism has evolved 20:25 - 23:35 | Community 23:35 - 28:10 | Thinking its a “phase” 28:10 - 33:20 | Mothers instinct 33:20 - 38:05 | Being held captive by your self 38:05 - 40:20 | A crisis point 40:20 - 42:35 | Pausing before reacting 42:35 - 48:05 | Toolbox for parents 48:05 - 52:40 | Assigning meaning 52:40 - 53:50 | Difference between our closet & our brain 53:50 - 57:35 | Qualities that make autism special 57:35 - 1:00:46 | Outro To every mom listening: You are doing your best in circumstances that don’t always make space for softness, and that’s exactly why conversations like this matter.If today’s episode resonated with you, go follow Lisa and listen to The Autism Mom Podcast, her work is a lifeline for any parent walking this journey.And as always, thank you for tuning in to Becoming: HER. I’m Nikki Spoelstra, and I’ll see you next week as we continue learning, growing, and becoming, together. —Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment! Connect with Lisa Candera theautismmomcoach.com@theautismmomcoach Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

If you’ve been doing everything right, eating clean, moving your body, getting your sleep, but still feeling tired, anxious, bloated, or just not like yourself, this episode is going to speak straight to your soul. This week on Becoming: HER, I sat down with Lauren Papanos, MS, RD, CSSD, a board-certified sports dietitian and hormone expert who helps high-performing women uncover the hidden thyroid and hormone imbalances quietly draining their energy.Lauren and I dive deep into why so many ambitious women are running on empty, what your labs might be missing, and how to finally restore your energy and confidence from the inside out. She shares real, practical tools you can start using today. No restrictive diets, no guilt, just aligned, sustainable healing.Tune in and learn how to reconnect with your body, honor your hormones, and step into the vibrant energy that’s been waiting for you all along. In this episode…PCOS Feminine frustration Healthy isn’t enough Fatigue Many layers of PCOS leveling upChanging perspective Mental & physical health Quotes“Healthy looks different for everybody.” - Lauren Papanos “When you have the financial stability, you have the freedom to make certain choices.” - Nikki Spo“We put pressure on ourselves to do the most all of the time when in reality the solution lies with doing less.” - Nikki Spo Timestamps: 0:00 - 2:50 | Intro 2:50 - 5:20 | PCOS5:20 - 8:45 | Medical history 8:45 - 13:10 | Healthy isn’t enough 13:10 - 15:45 | Mental health & physical health working together15:45 - 18:15 | Financial freedom 18:15 - 25:15 | Energy crisis25:15 - 26:50 | Self-assessments 26:50 - 30:35 | Signs 30:35 - 34:10 | Thyroid & gut 34:10 - 41:15 | Being an advocate for your own health 41:15 - 47:45 | Obstacles & solutions 47:45 - 53:45 | Being TOO busy 53:45 - 55:25 | A small shift 55:25 - 57:52 | Outro If this episode spoke to you, I’d love for you to take a moment to share it with another woman who needs to hear it. These conversations are meant to remind us that we’re not alone, and that healing and alignment are possible for every one of us.Make sure you’re subscribed to Becoming: HER wherever you listen to podcasts and if you haven’t yet, come connect with me on Instagram @nikkisappspo. Until next time, remember: you are powerful, you are capable, and you are becoming her. 💛 —Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment! Connect with Lauren Papanos https://functionalfueling.com/@functional.fueling Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

We are BACK for part 3! This week we are talking about specialty provisions which I am SO excited about. This is gonna be a fun rapid fire episode where we are covering prenups, postnups, marital settlement agreements, and ALL the specialty provisions that can go into them. Tune in!In this episode…Parenting planInvolvement in ex’s life “Daddy” and “Mommy” clausesRight of first refusal Radical acceptance & detachmentFreedom Rediscovering yourself Non-disclosure agreementsInfidelity clausesSunset clausesQuotes“When one parent vacates a space, the other one can step into it.” - Rachel Kipnis “We all have roles in a marriage, but when you aren’t married anymore you are going to have different roles.” - Rachel Kipnis “You can still be who you are and practice radical acceptance. Practicing radical acceptance and radical detachment is SO important.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps:0:00 - 2:15 | Intro 2:15 - 5:40 | “Daddy clause”5:40 - 10:10 | Right of first refusal 10:10 - 11:30 | Roles 11:30 - 13:00 | Radical acceptance & detachment13:00 - 15:30 | Freedom15:30 - 23:30 | Non-disclosure agreements 23:30 - 34:15 | Infidelity clauses 34:15 - 36:50 | Sunset clause 36:50 - 38:05 | Advice 38:05 - 40:03 | Outro Connect with Rachel @thesplitstrategist Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome back to Becoming: HER everybody! I am so excited to introduce this week's guest who is one of my closest friends, Rachel Kipnis. This is actually going to be a three part series because we have multiple things to talk about within the same category. Rachel is a powerhouse family law attorney who specializes in high net worth prenups, post-nups, divorces, and parenting plans. She has seen it ALLL when it comes to love, marriage, and what happens when things don’t go as planned. Rachel is here today to give us the knowledge, tools, and the confidence to navigate these often intimidating conversations. Over the next three episodes we are breaking it down; Part One - How to approach a prenup with clarity and confidence, Part Two - How to choose the right attorney if you are facing a divorce, and Part Three - Speciality clauses like NDAs, infidelity clauses, and more, what they mean and why they matter. This series is about empowerment, awareness, and protecting yourself without losing sight of love. Lets dive in!In this episode… ClarityPrenups Privacy Mindset Knowing what it looks like when you leave Financial disclosure Business of marriage Energy exchange Study the documents Quotes“I knew what I was doing was important work, but I didn't feel like my soul was satisfied by it.” - Rachel Kipnis “Prenups can be kind.” - Rachel Kipnis “There have been successful men who have built their success on the backs of women.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps:0:00 - 3:05 | Intro3:05 - 4:40 | Clarity 4:40 - 11:15 | Prenups 11:15 - 17:50 | Mindset shift 17:50 - 18:45 | Financials 18:45 - 22:15 | Breaking the document stigma 22:15 - 31:40 | Red flags in a prenup 31:40 - 36:25 | Key provisions to include in a prenup36:25 - 38:45 | Homemakers 38:45 - 42:40 | How to ensure both parties do what they are supposed to 42:40 - 46:00 | Myths to debunk about prenups 46:00 - 47:41 | Outro –Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Rachel @thesplitstrategist Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome back to Becoming: HER. This week I have a special guest who you may know from the screen but I am excited for you to get to know on a much deeper level. Joining me is Alexia Echavarria, one of the stars of the Real Housewives of Miami. While many of us have seen her glamorous and fiery personality on the show, Alexia’s story goes far beyond reality TV. She is a devoted mother, a woman who walked through unimaginable challenges, and someone who has had to redefine herself in the face of heartbreak, in the face of change and reinvention, all while being in the public eye. Tune in to find out more! In this episode… Resilience Courage Having to buck UP Speaking your truth Faith A mothers instinct Keeping the stars in your eyes Quotes“I don’t think people can invest enough in their health, their body, and their brain.” - Nikki Spo “It is never too late to rebuild. You have to rebuild first internally and find yourself again.” - Alexia Echavarria“I am enjoying just being me and choosing peace over chaos.” - Alexia Echavarria“Marriage is a business of life.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps: 0:00 - 3:05 | Intro3:05 - 4:20 | Courageousness vs. fearlessness 4:20 - 7:20 | Resilience 7:20 - 9:45 | Mourning your old life 9:45 - 12:45 | Moving through the trauma 12:45 - 18:35 | A mothers instinct 18:35 - 22:15 | Mental health in kids 22:15 - 24:45 | A family breakup 24:45 - 27:30 | Reinventing yourself 27:30 - 36:05 | Falling in love again 36:05 - 42:30 | Public eye 42:30 - 44:45 | The housewives 44:45 - 50:30 | Long-standing friends 50:30 - 57:55 | Jealous men 57:55 - 59:10 | Ignorance 59:10 - 1:01:35 | Objectively funny 1:01:35 - 1:03:30 | Legacy 1:03:30 - 1:06:05 | Shame1:06:05 - 1:07:50 | Girls girl 1:07:50 - 1:09:13 | Outro Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Alexia @alexiae_says Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome BACK to part 2 with Yuri Cordero. In this episode we're diving into the art of true submission, not the kind that diminishes you, but the kind that expands your power. We talk about feminism, what it means to have a strong partner (mentally and emotionally), and how to navigate the lonely seasons without feeling truly alone. Tune in! In this episode…Submission Alpha women Feminism A strong man (mentally) Feeling lonely but not alone Trusting yourself Quotes“True submission is not a man stepping on your head.” - Yuri Cordero “I think there are a lot of men who grew up and now they’re looking for their mom as a partner.” - Nikki Spo“I am not gonna ignore it. I am going to hold up a mirror for humanity.” - Nikki Spo“If you don’t go through the process, you will not make progress.” - Yuri Cordero Timestamps: 0:00 - 4:10 | Submission 4:10 - 6:10 | Feminism 6:10 - 10:10 | A non-threatening partner 10:10 - 14:00 | Having a human experience 14:00 - 17:30 | Trusting yourself 17:30 - 22:30 | Mental health 22:30 - 25:10 | Empathy 25:10 - 28:00 | Going through the process 28:00 - 31:45 | Outro – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW.Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Yuri Cordero https://yuricordero.com/ https://yuricordero.com/librosycursos/p/the-virtue-of-the-process @yuri_cordero Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome BACK to Becoming: HER! This week's conversation is one that I truly believe that every single woman needs to hear. Whether you're in your 30s, 40s, or even in your 20s, you need to hear this. We know that a lot of the women in their 50s are already tackling some of these topics head on, but I am really REALLY interested in my target demographic. All the listeners that keep coming here week after week to hear these conversations, THIS IS FOR YOU! We want to talk about what to do when something starts to feel… a little bit off. Joining me this week is the brilliant and compassionate Dr. Jila Senemar. She is a Miami based OBGYN and a hormone and wellness expert who is changing the game for women navigating perimenopause and menopause. You are NOT alone and you are NOT broken. Tune in to learn more! In this episode… DestigmatizingHormone therapyYou are STILL relevant Reinventing & restarting Education PerimenopauseA woman's intuitionQuotes“With maturity comes a sense of grace, comes a sense of confidence, and a state of presence of mind you just simply don’t have in your 20s, and sometimes even in your 30s.” - Nikki Spo“What I want the younger generation to be ready for is what it is, why it's happening, that it's natural, there are lots of things that we can do to have a smooth transition.” - Dr. Jila Senemar “I am going to take everything back, start from scratch, and learn better.” - Dr. Jila Senemar Timestamps:0:00 - 2:50 | Intro 2:50 - 6:30 | Reinventing & restarting 6:30 - 9:20 | Dr. Jila Senemar’s journey 9:20 - 11:45 | Being educated on your body 11:45 - 17:15 | Perimenopause 17:15 - 19:45 | A woman's intuition19:45 - 23:50 | Where to start… 23:50 - 28:08 | Estrogen 28:08 - 34:10 | It’s sexy to be educated 34:10 - 37:15 | Normal aging 37:15 - 39:25 | PCOS39:25 - 44:10 | Holistic approach44:10 - 48:40 | Regulating hormones 48:40 - 50:30 | Becoming the voice & face for this cause 50:30 - 52:16 | Outro –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Join Becoming Herhttps://www.skool.com/nikki-spoelstra-1185/about Connect with Dr. Jila Senemar https://jilamd.com/ @drjilasenemar Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @weare_becomingher Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy