Better Sports Parents

Greg Stewart spent the first 25 years of his life trying to prove to people that he wasn't disabled despite being born without half of his left arm. Once he changed his mindset, he found the sport of shot put and won two Paralympic gold medals.Greg is a three-time world champion in para standing volleyball, a U Sports Defensive player of the Year in able bodied basketball, and he stands seven foot two. But the most interesting thing about him isn't his resume. It's the path he had to walk to get there. A path that ran through able-bodied sport, university, rock bottom, two lost jobs, and an eventual breakthrough: accepting himself exactly as he was.In this conversation, Greg talks about what sport means when you spend years doing it for the wrong reasons, why failure is one of the most important things we can teach young athletes, and what the word inclusion actually means when you strip away the box-ticking. He shares the three values he brings to young athletes — trust, ownership and integrity — and makes a compelling case that the real problem in youth sports right now isn't the coaches or the kids. It's the parents... who he also believes are the solution.Greg is 40 years old, newly married, a brand new father of a three-month-old daughter, and studying for his master's in counseling. He has more to say about sport, identity and mental health than almost anyone we've had on this show. 🎙️ Better Sports Parents: helping parents positively contribute to the youth sports environment. Subscribe for new episodes every week. Chapters00:00 Opening01:36 Introducing Greg Stewart03:46 How Greg Got Into Sport05:03 "You Can't Coach Height" — Using What You've Got05:38 Starting in Grassroots: Soccer, Lacrosse and Everything Else07:15 What His Parents Got Right: Encouragement Without Force08:41 Did Sport Feel Like a Place He Belonged?11:43 25 Years Trying to Prove He Wasn't Disabled13:09 Leaning Into Able-Bodied Sport: What He Was Really Chasing15:02 Having Success Without Having Joy16:51 Chasing External Validation for 25 Years17:16 Rock Bottom: Almost Failing Out, Fired From Two Jobs19:36 How He Found Joy in Sport Again20:26 Failure Is Important22:26 How He Discovered Shot Put25:24 Physical Health and Mental Health Are the Same Thing28:12 Finding Flow State in Sport30:07 What Greg Tells Young Athletes: Trust, Ownership and Integrity33:15 Are Parents Owning the Right Things?35:19 Your Discomfort Is Leading the Way: A Message for Parents 38:17 Mental Health Support in Sport: What's Changed and What Hasn't39:23 Why We Need to Let Kids Fail 41:20 Do All the Sports43:18 Youth Sport Has Become Too Commercialized44:13 The Coaches Who Shaped Greg46:04 Ownership and Trust: Who Really Runs the Team?48:38 What Inclusion Actually Means52:03 Where Does Healthy Competition Belong in Youth Sport?55:56 The Objective vs. The Purpose: A Crucial Distinction57:42 Greg's Biggest Issue in Youth Sport Today: Parent Involvement01:00:04 How to Bring Parents Along: Lead by Vulnerability01:02:32 The Listeners We Really Need to Reach01:03:30 The MindfuleteResourcesGreg StewartThe MindfuleteJumpstart

Aaron Volpatti was never supposed to make it. He wasn't drafted. He wasn't a goal scorer. He grew up in Revelstoke, BC, playing house hockey at 14 and got cut from select teams. And then at 19 years old, while playing junior hockey with the Vernon Vipers, he was badly burned in an accident and told by doctors that his hockey career was over. He was wrapped head to toe in a hospital burn unit, unable to walk, when he made a decision that would define the rest of his life: he was coming back to play hockey no matter what. He was out of the hospital in six weeks. He played that fall. He went on to commit to Brown University. And he eventually played 114 games in the NHL... more than 70% of the players who were actually drafted in his draft year.But Aaron is far more interested in talking about what youth sport is getting wrong than revisiting what he got right. Now a cognitive performance and injury coach, author of Fighter, and father of three, Aaron brings a perspective on the youth sports environment that is equal parts personal and professional.He talks candidly about the trap of treating your child like an investment, the cost — financial and otherwise — of over-structuring kids' lives at the expense of free play and childhood, and why shaping your child's identity for them before they've had a chance to figure out who they are is one of the most harmful things the current youth sports culture is doing. He shares his own strict hockey rule for his young son, why he coaches parents far more often than he coaches the athletes themselves, and what he says to parents who worry their kid will fall behind. Aaron also opens up about struggling with his own identity after hockey ended, what visualization taught him about human potential, and what he genuinely wants his three kids to take from sport.This is a conversation about holding onto childhood, staying in the fight, and asking the question nobody in youth sports wants to answer: at what cost? Chapters00:00 Opening01:35 Introduction: Aaron Volpatti03:42 What minor hockey meant to Aaron growing up05:01 His parents' approach: no pressure, just values07:33 What "let kids be kids" actually means08:44 The lessons sport taught him09:45 Getting cut from select teams & staying humble13:53 The burn injury that should have ended his hockey career19:04 The visualization practice that changed everything23:53 Are the most talented players in the NHL?26:55 Why overlooked players with grit outlast the early stars29:58 Knowing your role: "you are not a goal scorer"31:54 What good coaches do that parents often undermine34:13 Equal play, age-appropriate competition37:14 Sacrificing kids' childhoods40:12 No spring or summer hockey: Aaron's family rule40:38 The fear of falling behind trap41:50 What the real return on investment in youth sport looks like44:55 Being your kid's cheerleader, not their critic47:18 The car ride home48:45 Rethinking mistakes & permission to fail50:02 Social media & comparison syndrome52:31 Helping athletes redefine performance55:46 Aaron's identity crisis57:32 Visualization, belief and finding life after sport1:00:34 Writing "Fighter"1:04:16 What Aaron wants his own kids to take from sport1:05:35 The biggest issue in youth sports today1:10:30 Setting boundariesResourcesFighter (Book)Aaron's WebsiteFollow Aaron on Instagram