About this episode
David Tian discusses the hidden costs of achieving professional success on personal relationships and the necessary reorientation for deeper connections.
Every high achiever I've worked with says he wants deeper connection. Almost none of them understand what it actually costs. In this episode, I show you the one move most achievers unconsciously resist making. The move that changes how every close relationship in their life works — their oldest friends, the family they came from, the family they have not yet built, and the one they have with themselves. What I'm about to describe is not a technique, but a reorientation. A technique is something you add to the list of things you already do. A reorientation asks you to stop doing something you have built your whole life around. So let me say this up front. Nothing in this episode is hard to understand. Everything in it is hard to do. We cover the hidden ledger most achievers carry into every relationship without knowing it. The Confucian discipline of compassion, which is very different from softness. The young part of you that was sent away around seven years old. And what courage actually looks like in an intimate conversation, which has almost nothing to do with what you think. If the people you want closest to you feel like they're actually far away, this is the episode for…
People in this episode
Host: David Tian
Topics covered
- deeper connection
- relationships
- self-awareness
- compassion
- intimacy
Keywords
- high achievers
- connection
- relationships
- compassion
- intimate conversation
- deathbed regret
- self-love
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