Bounce Back Better By Hilary Saxton

Every decision you make today is a vote for the life you'll live tomorrow. What if you've been casting votes against your own future without even noticing? In this episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton unpacks the idea that every small daily decision, from the snack to the scroll to the snappy text, is a vote being dropped into a ballot box you can't see. Over time, the count starts reflecting back to you in the shape of your health, your money, your relationships, your energy, and the version of yourself you've become. Drawing on the framework from her book 3-2-1 Done, including the story of a client she calls Rebecca, Hilary makes the case that awareness, not willpower, is the lever. There are two futures on the ballot: the default future you build by drift, and the chosen future that requires annoyingly consistent votes. This is a warm, honest, occasionally self-deprecating episode about the gap between what we say we want and what our weeks actually look like, and the one question that closes it. What you'll learn: - Why your future is being built right now by the mood, food, conversations, and excuses you're voting for today - The "three pairs of glasses" you choose between every morning, and how the choice shapes the entire day - The difference between cruel honesty and honest honesty when assessing your own patterns - Why current you and future you want different things, and who keeps paying the bill - The single question that interrupts unconscious decision-making and gives you back your power Timestamped highlights: [02:01] The three pairs of glasses on your bedside table [04:39] We can't expect to create one future while continuously voting for another [09:16] Rebecca's story from 3-2-1 Done [14:34] Current you sends the bill to future you [15:23] The Toastmasters confession [18:44] The one question that interrupts everything Quote from the episode: "We can't expect to create one future while continuously voting for another. So what are you voting for right now?"  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever met someone who just seems lucky? Things fall into place, opportunities appear, and doors swing open for them? Here’s the truth - luck isn’t random. It’s created. In this week’s episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton flips the script on luck and shows you how to go from saying “Why me?” to boldly declaring “Try me.” You’ll discover how the most “lucky” people are actually just bold action takers - people who say yes, bring great energy, and create their own opportunities through connection, mindset, and movement. Hilary shares practical, real-world ways to make your own luck:✅ How to shift from waiting for good fortune to generating it through micro-actions✅ Why your energy determines the opportunities that show up✅ The secret power of saying “yes” more often - and meaning it✅ How connection and curiosity attract the right people (and the right timing)✅ Why writing “I’m lucky” on your mirror might just change your life This episode is a feel-good fire-starter for anyone stuck waiting for things to change. You don’t need a four-leaf clover - you need focus, energy, and action. Check out this week’s episode and learn how to turn everyday moments into lucky breaks. Challenge:This week, create your own luck. Say yes to something new, reach out to someone you’ve been meaning to connect with, or take one brave action you’ve been putting off. Then watch what opens up. 💬 Know someone who says, “I’m just not lucky”?Send them this episode. It might just be the mindset reset they need. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: hilary@hilarysaxton.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever felt like life is just too much? Like your to-do list belongs on a medieval scroll, your brain has 47 tabs open, and the easiest solution is a glass of wine (or three)? That’s overwhelm. In this week’s episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton takes a no-nonsense look at why we spiral into overwhelm and what it’s really costing us - from energy leaks and strained relationships to stolen confidence and joy. With raw honesty and humour, she unpacks the modern monster of overstimulation and the sneaky ways we try to self-soothe that only keep us stuck. You’ll learn:✅ Why overwhelm isn’t weakness - it’s a signal✅ The five biggest culprits (perfectionism, overcommitment, lack of clarity, overstimulation, and coping mechanisms)✅ The real costs of staying stuck in overwhelm✅ Practical tools and the THANKS framework to shrink the chaos and take back control This week’s challenge: Notice when you’re reaching for a coping mechanism - wine, chocolate, scrolling - and instead, choose one small action that clears the clutter and moves you forward. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: hilary@hilarysaxton.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How many times have you held back in a meeting, skipped sharing your win, or toned yourself down so others wouldn’t feel uncomfortable? In this episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton calls time on playing small - because it doesn’t just hurt you, it keeps everyone in the dark. Inspired by a five-year-old named Billy, who strutted into a movie theatre in full Sonic the Hedgehog gear without a care in the world, Hilary explores what it really means to show up unapologetically. From the “spotlight effect” (spoiler: people aren’t noticing you as much as you think) to tall poppy syndrome and imposter syndrome, this episode is a deep dive into why we dim our brilliance - and how to stop. You’ll discover: ✅ Why worrying about being “too much” is making you forgettable ✅ How dimming your light doesn’t help others shine - it just keeps everyone in the dark ✅ The real reason confidence grows when you put your hand up ✅ Why visibility is an act of service ✅ How to fire the fake audience in your head This week’s challenge: Turn the dial up one notch brighter. Post the win. Speak up. Wear the bold lipstick. Apply for the thing. Stop shrinking to fit into rooms you’ve already outgrown. You weren’t born to be beige - you were born to be unforgettable. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in🎥 Watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/TYzE3RkRpvg ✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: hilary@hilarysaxton.com  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever find yourself saying, “I just need more time to think about it”? In this week’s episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton dives deep into the sneaky habit of indecision - and why it’s silently stealing your time, energy, confidence, and opportunity. We often assume not deciding is a neutral choice, but the truth? Indecision is a decision. And it’s often the one keeping you small. With relatable stories, real-world coaching insights, and her signature tough-love delivery, Hilary unpacks:✅ Why indecision isn’t safe - it’s energy-draining procrastination in disguise✅ The mental loops that erode your confidence and clutter your clarity✅ The real fears behind why you hesitate (spoiler: it’s not just about the decision)✅ Her own story of circling a map and making a bold move that changed everything✅ Why clarity doesn’t come first - but comes after you decide This is your reminder that you weren’t born to sit on the fence. You were born to choose. To move. To build. Because dreams don’t die loudly - they die in the quiet corners of “maybe later.” Your challenge this week: What’s the one decision you’ve been avoiding? Big or small - name it, shrink it, and take one tiny messy step forward.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Think you need to feel motivated before you act? Think again. In this energising episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton busts the biggest myths about motivation and shares why waiting to feel ready is the very thing holding you back. From dopamine hacks and identity shifts to laughably small actions that build momentum, Hilary unpacks the real drivers behind consistent action - and it’s not what you’ve been told. You’ll hear real-life coaching stories, practical tools, and mindset tweaks that help you move forward, even on the days when your mojo goes missing. You don’t need a motivational speech. You need a system, a shift, and a solid first step. This episode shows you how to find all three. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why motivation is unreliable (and what to use instead) How to stop comparison from killing your confidence The identity rewires that fuel consistent action Dopamine tricks that make hard habits feel rewarding Real coaching examples that turn stuck into success Challenge of the Week:What’s your “one brick” version of your big goal? Break it down. Commit to just 15 minutes on it. Bonus points if you reward yourself with a fist pump or a happy dance. 🔗 More tools and resources: www.hilarysaxton.com📕 Grab your copy of 3 Wines In: hilarysaxton.com/product/3-wines-in🎥 Watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/f3LSaSrEnbE Know someone who’s stuck waiting to feel ready?Send them this episode. It might be the nudge that changes everything. ✉️ Lightbulb moment? Email Hilary: hilary@hilarysaxton.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.