"But Jesus Drank Wine" & Other Stories That Kept Us Stuck

Whether you're asking "Do I drink to slow down?" or "How do I build healthier rhythms without adding more to-do lists," this episode is practical, encouraging, and full of real-life examples that'll give you ideas you can try this week. We're back with Lauren, this time digging into pace, rhythms, and how busyness intertwined with drinking and why alcohol felt like the only "off" switch 📘 What you'll learn in this episode Lauren's personal story: the fall that stopped her in her tracks, the cascade of overwhelm that followed, and how pace contributed to her drinking. Why hurry is spiritually dangerous, and how hurry and sin produce the same effect: cutting us off from God, others, and our own souls. The subtle trap: "I drink to slow down" — why it feels helpful in the moment and why it actually fuels worse sleep, anxiety, and overwhelm. Practical rhythm wins: Morning prayer + journaling, needlepoint Sabbath-ish screen breaks, shifting chores off Sundays, and asking "What can I offload?" The myth of productivity-as-worth: why busyness can be an avoidance strategy and how to start disentangling worth from to-do lists. Real hope for "boredom" fears: boredom at first is normal — it's not the same as peace — and the horizon of meaningful, non-alcoholic rest gets easier with practice. Lauren's other episodes: Lauren's Freedom From Alcohol Beginning Story Letting Go of Moderation As The Goal Resources Mentioned: The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: How to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the Modern World by John Mark Comer 🤝 Join our community: https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community 📖 Order your copy of Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind 📲 Instagram: @butjesusdrankwine 🎥 We're on YouTube too—come hang out!The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Will people still like me? Will I be boring? Will I be left out? We've been there, and today our team joins us to share the real story of how friendships shift… and why the changes are ultimately a beautiful blessing.You'll hear honest fears, surprising blessings, and practical ways to navigate social life alcohol-free, without losing yourself (or your true people).📘 What you'll learn in this episode: From fear to freedom: The most common friendship worries (being "boring," losing invites, not fitting in) and what actually happened. Practicing new social firsts: Weddings, themed parties, girls' nights, how repetition makes it normal (and fun) to show up sober. Quality over quantity: Redefining friendship from "people I drink with" to mutual care, honesty, and presence. Vulnerability vs. lowered inhibitions: Why real connection requires trust, not cocktails, and how to build it. The ripple effect: How your "no" can give someone else permission to skip the drink too. Loosening your grip: Offering up friendships you're clinging to and watching God bring better-than-expected community. 🕊️ Scripture woven through: Romans 12:2 — Don't conform; be transformed. Ephesians 3:16–20 — God does immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine. Genesis 22 — Trusting God with what you love (Abraham & Isaac). 💌 Resources & Links:🤝 Join our community: https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community 📖 Order your copy of Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind 📲 Instagram: @butjesusdrankwine 🎥 We're on YouTube too—come hang out! The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

We did it! This episode was recorded in person at our first Leadership Retreat in Colorado Springs, CO. We share the heart behind the weekend, how this ministry began, and what God is building through community. You'll also get a sneak peek at the next two episodes featuring stories from our leadership team, on life after alcohol and the "friendship shuffle." Whether you've been with us since Episode 1 or you're brand new, we hope this behind-the-scenes conversation makes you feel right at home with us. In this episode: Retreat highlights: worship around the fire (bear visit included 🐻), shared meals, prayer over every community member by name, and recording together for the first time. The origin story: how a cold email became a friendship, a podcast, and, surprise to us, a ministry. Why community matters: the difference between white-knuckling alone and growing together around Jesus (not wine). Work God has done: what freedom looks like years later, and why it keeps getting better. What's coming next: two team episodes on (1) the biggest life changes after alcohol and (2) navigating friendships as you grow. An invitation: pray with us as we plan our first in-person gatherings for the whole community. 📖 Order your copy of Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind 🤝 Join our community: https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community 📲 Connect on Instagram: @butjesusdrankwine 🎥 We're on YouTube too—come hang out! The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Sign up for the September 40 Day Fast HERE! In Week 5 of our 6-part Monday series walking through Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast, we're diving into Days 28–34—and this episode is full of aha moments, empowering truths, and vulnerable conversations to support your sober journey. Whether you're navigating emotional ups and downs, feeling disconnected from your values, or questioning what fun looks like without alcohol—this episode will meet you there. 📘 This week covers: 💁‍♀️ Day 28: Renewing Your ConfidenceWhy alcohol isn't the confidence booster we think it is—and how to build real confidence that sticks. ⚠️ Day 29: The Hidden Dangers of AlcoholWe unpack the truth about alcohol's effects on the body, brain, gut, and heart—plus how knowledge leads to freedom. 🚫 Day 30: The Myth of Clean WineSpoiler alert: there's no such thing. Clean wine is clever marketing, not truth. 🎉 Day 31: Redefining FunWhen chaos isn't fun anymore—how to rediscover joy, spontaneity, and peace on your own terms. 💬 Day 32: Filling the Gap & Embracing EmotionLearning to sit in discomfort, feel feelings, and meet God right in the middle of it. 💡 Day 33: Reclaiming Your ValuesWhat matters most to you? And how has alcohol pulled you away from it? This is your call to realign. 🤝 Day 34: Rediscovering True ConnectionHow sobriety deepens your relationships—with God, your people, and your purpose. 💌 Resources & Links: 📣 Join the September 40 Day FastRegistration is open now for the next live-coached 40 Day Alcohol Fast starting September 8! Walk through the fast in real time with coaching, community, and the support you need to finish strong. 👉 Sign up here: https://butjesusdrankwine.myflodesk.com/septemberfast 🎙️Past episodes mentioned: 10 Reasons Living Alcohol-Free Has Made Us More Confident Realigning with Your Core Values with Pastor David 📖 Order your copy of Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind 🤝 Join our community: https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community 📲 Connect on Instagram: @butjesusdrankwine 🎥 We're on YouTube too—come hang out! The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Sign up for the September 40 Day Fast here: https://butjesusdrankwine.myflodesk.com/septemberfast In Week 3 of our 6-part Monday series walking through Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast, we're diving into Days 14–21—and this episode is rich with practical tools, mindset shifts, and grace-filled encouragement to support your alcohol-free journey. Whether you're mid-fast, gearing up for September's live-coached fast, or simply sober-curious, these reflections and real-life stories will help you renew your mind and stay the course. 📘 This week covers: 🧁 Day 14: Navigating Sugar CravingsWhy sugar hits so hard in early sobriety—and how to give yourself grace while blood sugar and dopamine rebalance. 🧠 Day 15: Exploring Alcohol Use ModelsDisease model? Learning model? Self-medication? Understanding different frameworks can help you name your story—and start changing it. 😴 Day 16: Sleep and SobrietyWe share how sobriety gave her the best sleep of her life (and why that matters more than we think). 😬 Day 17: "It's Not About You, It's About Them"What to do when others make your not-drinking... about them. Yep, we've been there. 🛑 Day 18: Setting BoundariesHow to say no without guilt—and protect your peace as you walk this path. 💃 Day 19: Joyful MovementFrom walks to Pilates, we explore how movement that feels good (not punishing) can become a new form of self-care. 🙏 Day 20: The Power of GratitudeMore than just a good habit—gratitude can rewire your brain and realign your heart with God. 🕊️ Day 21: Redefining Self-CareIt's not bubble baths. It's becoming the kind of woman who regularly returns to God for rest and renewal. 💌 Resources & Links: 📣 Join the September 40 Day FastRegistration is open now for the next live-coached 40 Day Alcohol Fast starting September 8! Walk through the fast in real time with coaching, community, and the support you need to finish strong. 👉 Sign up here 🎙️Past episodes mentioned: What Do I Tell My Girlfriends If I'm Not Drinking? 📖 Order your copy of Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind 🤝 Join our community: https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community 📲 Connect on Instagram: @butjesusdrankwine 🎥 We're on YouTube too—come hang out! The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Sign up for the September 40 Day Fast here: https://butjesusdrankwine.myflodesk.com/septemberfast In this powerful opening to our six-part Monday series, we're diving into Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind—starting with Days 1 through 7. Whether you're reading along, curious about taking a break, or preparing to join the September live-coached fast, this episode lays the foundation for a Spirit-led, grace-filled approach to changing your relationship with alcohol. We explore how to shift from striving to surrender, why curiosity matters more than willpower, and how to begin reframing your beliefs about alcohol through the lens of faith, neuroscience, and identity in Christ. You'll hear why you don't need to hit rock bottom to make a change, how to set feeling-based goals that align with your values, and what it looks like to move from white-knuckling to walking in freedom with God. This is the mindset shift that changes everything—and it all starts here. 📘 This week covers: 🌿 Day 1: Starting with GraceWhy you don't have to get it all right on Day 1—and how grace changes everything. 👭 Day 2: You're Not AloneYou're not the only Christian woman who struggles with this. And you don't have to walk this alone. ⛰️ Day 3: Rock Bottom Not RequiredYou don't have to lose it all to make a change. Sobriety can be a proactive and empowered choice. 🧠 Day 4: Renewing Your MindWhy this fast is about so much more than quitting alcohol—it's about transformation from the inside out. 🧬 Day 5: Cracking the CodeHow brain chemistry, habits, and identity all intersect—and what it means for your alcohol story. ⚔️ Day 6: The Battle in Our BrainsUnderstanding the real spiritual and neurological tug-of-war—and how to win with God. 🔍 Day 7: Find Your WhyHow to anchor your fast in God's purpose for your life—and keep going when it gets tough. 💌 Resources & Links: 📣 Join the September 40 Day FastRegistration is open now for the next live-coached 40 Day Alcohol Fast starting September 8! Walk through the fast in real time with coaching, community, and the support you need to finish strong. 👉 Sign up here 🎙️Past episodes mentioned: Episode 30: You Don't Have to Count Days Episode 45: You Don't Have to Say Forever 📖 Order your copy of Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind 🤝 Join our community: https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community 📲 Connect on Instagram: @butjesusdrankwine 🎥 We're on YouTube too—come hang out! The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

You don't need a rock bottom to change. Today we explore a powerful reframe: what if rock bottom isn't a place of shame or destruction, but a moment of surrender? A moment when you realize that Jesus is the Rock at the bottom, and that He's been there all along. This conversation dismantles the common story that things need to get "bad enough" before you're allowed to change your relationship with alcohol. We share vulnerable moments from our own journeys and unpack how letting go of the "I have to hit bottom" mindset can actually open the door to freedom, clarity, and deeper connection with God. Whether your life "looks fine" on the outside or you're wrestling with the quiet ache of disconnection, this episode invites you to choose better—not because you have to, but because you get to. Journaling Questions To Try: Is alcohol still serving me? Is alcohol helping me get closer to who God is calling me to be? Is this choice leading me toward peace or away from it? Am I waiting for things to get worse before I believe I'm allowed to want more? 💌 Resources & Links: I Surrender All by Priscilla Shirer Available on Amazon 📣 Join the September 40 Day FastRegistration is open now for the next live-coached 40 Day Alcohol Fast starting September 8! Walk through the fast in real time with coaching, community, and the support you need to finish strong. 👉 Sign up here 📖 Order your copy of Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind 🤝 Join our community: https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community 📲 Connect on Instagram: @butjesusdrankwine 🎥 We're on YouTube too—come hang out! The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Moderating alcohol is exhausting. Let's talk about what's possible when you stop playing the game. In this listener-favorite list-style episode, we share the 10 best things about never having to moderate alcohol again, and trust us, it's more freeing than you think. From the relentless mental gymnastics ("Should I? Shouldn't I?") to the emotional fallout of breaking yet another promise to yourself, moderation often becomes more of a burden than a solution. So what happens when you stop trying to control your drinking and start living in true freedom? Spoiler alert: more headspace, less shame, deeper joy, better boundaries, and a whole lot more time for Jesus (and wildflowers ). What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why moderation takes more time, energy, and mental space than we realize The sneaky ways alcohol was stealing our joy—even in "small" amounts How living alcohol-free helps us show up more fully as moms, wives, and women of faith What shifts when you no longer have to plan, justify, or recover from drinking The role of curiosity, compassion, and truth in breaking the cycle How ditching moderation leads to deeper peace, clearer boundaries, and surprising laughter 🎧 Love our list-style episodes? Go back and listen to: Ep 15: The 10 Best Things About Never Having to Drink Again Ep 32: 10 Things We No Longer Spend Money On Ep 74: 10 Things We Wish Someone Had Told Us the First Year Ep 89: 10 Reasons Living Alcohol-Free Has Made Us More Confident Sign up for the September 40 Day Fast here: Order Christy's book: Love Life Sober, A 40 Day Alcohol Fast To Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health and Renew Your Mind Join the conversation in our community at But Jesus Drank Wine Community. Connect with us on Instagram! @butjesusdrankwine You can find this episode on YouTube HERE. The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.