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This episode is incredibly special, and is specifically for Dads who are struggling with children who feel they can't go on. You are not alone.  One of the things most people don't know about us Dads, is the powerlessness and utter fear we live in when we can't guide our children (especially our teen daughters), in those moments they feel 'all is lost' ...  when their biggest fear is, facing tomorrow. Most Dads shrug their shoulders, say 'toughen up' or some similar blanket response - which really means: 'I'm very scared and I don't know what to say-or-do to help you' We have the best and most loving intentions, but most of us don't usually get this one right. We often are really clumsy here and feel like a bull in a china shop, with everything on the line. It's scary as hell and very few of us will admit that. But it is. So I had a goal for this week's Close Quarter Dad episode; to find someone who could share a message to help us Dads, to help our children who are living in fear ... and I found Sara. As a young lady, Sara was part of the rounding up of Cambodians by the Khmer Rouge, among 2 million who were butchered, she was put into a forced labor camp for 4 years ... her story of escaping the death camp, starvation, darkness, survival and willingness to push forward is beyond words. How could she go on? Well ... she will tell you.   Then she will speak to us bulls and tell us exactly what to do. Yes, you will have the mic dropped on your soul in this one, and will be a better father (or mother, or human) just for listening to her voice and message. CONNECT WITH SARA IM: Website: https://www.saraim.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SaraImSpeakerAuthor   Thank you for joining us on this episode of the Close Quarter Dad podcast. Please support us by subscribing and sharing. And if you'd like to learn more about the work we do, please check out how you can join us. JOIN US: https://closequarterdad.com/join   

In this episode, I speak with a leading global expert on the topic of sexual abuse. Celebrated author and TEDx speaker, Joelle Casteix is changing the current cultural perspective on sexual abuse, and bringing light to the urgent need of conversations with children about sexual abuse and victimization. There are some mind-blowing concepts she shares, that are so simple and hidden in plain sight; making this a must listen for all Dads.  KEY TAKEAWAYS: Equipping Dads with the info and building  courage needed to speak about sexual abuse. The importance of Dads teaching children personal protection. Use of proper biological terms for body parts and teaching children about boundaries and consent. Age-appropriate discussions, the ick factor, stranger danger, and peer-to-peer sexual abuse. Child protection and abuse prevention. Teaching children about body boundaries, consent, and the difference between tattling and reporting. Online pornography and today's impact on your children. The connection between pornography and child sexual abuse.  How to create a safe environment for their children to report abuse and seek help. Peer-to-peer abuse in schools and the importance of holding schools accountable for protecting students. Age of consent laws and the need for legislative reform.  This episode is literally a workshop for men, on how to speak to their kids about a topic often reflected to the school systems - or worse - ignored. And considering the statistics are 1 in 6 listeners of this episode will have a child who will be targeted as a victim; are you willing to bet on those odds?  CONNECT WITH JOELLE CASTEIX & SUPPORT HER WORK: Website: https://www.casteix.com/ The Worthy Adversary Her Book: The Well-Armored Child Her other books Joelle's TEDx Talk   ABOUT JOELLE CASTEIX Joelle Casteix is a journalist and a leading global expert, author, and keynote speaker for survivors of child sexual assault and institutional cover-up.   START TRAINING YOUR KIDS NOW Here’s a complimentary lesson I made for channel listeners on the 3 Discussions you must have with your kids about safety and survival. It’s only ten minutes long, but could be a life saving 10 minutes of your time spent. CloseQuarterDad.com/3Discussions   CONNECT AND LEARN MORE WEBSITE: https://closequarterdad.com INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/closequarterdad FACEBOOK: https://Facebook.com/closequarterdad   What can you do to support this channel? Subscribe, every new listener counts to us Engage, we are a community who supports each other Leave a review, let us know what you think Share, know others who may get some value - then share our channel  

In this episode, "Parenting in a Sexualized World," we're joined by Dr. Tara, a professor at Cal State University specializing in sex behavior and sexual communication. Together with our host, Adam Mitchell, they discuss the complexities of raising children in a society saturated with sexualized content and the importance of open, empowering conversations about sexuality within families. From redirecting sensation seeking energy to navigating exposure to pornography, they provide valuable insights and guidance on supporting children in understanding healthy relationships and boundaries. Join us as we explore the vital role of fathers in addressing these difficult yet crucial topics, and the impact open communication can have on children's long-term well-being. What you're going to learn in the episode with Dr. Tara: Sensation Seeking Redirected: Redirecting sensation seeking energy to healthy activities. Natural impulses can be channeled positively. Encouraging sports and socialization. Open Sexual Health Communication: Using correct vocabulary and initiating dialogue with questions. Parents should have open conversations without penalizing children. Empowering Children's Boundaries: Empower children to communicate feelings and boundaries. Addressing boundary issues and teaching children to assert themselves. Responsible Talks about Pornography: Addressing intense topics responsibly. Discussing appropriate sources of information and engaging in honest conversations about porn. Fathers in Sexuality Conversations: Fathers being present in sex and masculinity discussions. Essential role of fathers in sexuality talks. Ancient wisdom and continuous learning. Resources for Men's Sexuality: Encouraging men to educate themselves about their sexuality. Suggested books and websites for men to learn about their sexual health. Challenges of Oversexualized World: Fathers facing difficulties in parenting. Concerns about children's exposure to oversexualization and inappropriate content. The Danger of Pornography: Addressing dangers of children being exposed to pornography. Protecting children from being targeted by predators through porn channels. Empowering Conversations about Sex: Encouraging open discussions and empowering children. Providing children with the knowledge and confidence to make smart choices. Family Sex Communication Research: Understanding the impact of family sex communication. Research project on family sex communication and its association with young adults' sexual satisfaction.   Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton (recieved her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, and the host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. Her work has been featured in ABC News, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and other media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app, Couply app, and Superstars app. https://themonapp.com/ https://www.couply.io/luvbites https://superstars.co/  

What is the current state of Family Safety and as a man and father, are you prepared? Amber Elle, Director of Family Preparedness and the lead for women’s development at Fieldcraft Survival discusses family safety measures and exactly how to safeguard your loved ones. You'll learn: The current state of safety and risk factors families are facing today Immediate changes you can put in place in your home to keep children safe How to create a family culture of safety through activities and connection How and why ever father should be expanding their skillset for preparedness and self-reliance A mother's perspective on what is needed for a home to be safe As well, this episode covers various safety scenarios, such as home invasion, unlocked firearms, and personal safety in emergency situations. Amber stresses the importance of practical preparation, situational awareness, and communicating with loved ones in times of emergency. The goal of the episode is to help listeners create a lifestyle of preparedness and self-reliance, so they can have peace and feel empowered during times of turmoil. Fieldcraft Survival INSTAGRAM: @ms.amber.elle ABOUT AMBER ELLE Amber is our Director of Family Preparedness and the lead for women’s development. She is a mother to three adventurous children and leads their home education journey through living and rich experiences. She holds a bachelor of science degree in nursing with active licensure and maintains CPR and first aid certifications. She holds training as a classical education educator and has experience leading young adults in their studies. She has also led gun safety and situational awareness classes with local children’s groups. Amber loves maintaining a home garden, raising animals, hunting, cooking, and using her life to teach other families how to thrive in spite of their unique circumstances. From Close Quarter Dad Thank you for visiting and supporting my work with Close Quarter Dad. If you enjoyed this episode, please continue to support by subscribing to our YouTube channel. If you are interested in stepping further into my work, below are links to help you better understand Close Quarter Dad and opportunities that may help in your path in becoming closer to your children and family through safety training. Once again, thank you for spending time here ~ Adam CLOSE QUARTER DAD: https://closequarterdad.com MEMBERSHIP & TRAINING: https://closequarterdad.com/join  Community - Monthly topic specific study group Member - Distance training and live classes online FREE TRAINING RESOURCES: 3 Discussions Every Dad Must Have Close Quarter Dad Podcast The Child Safety Summit ABOUT CLOSE QUARTER DAD Close Quarter Dad is a project for fathers who are constantly seeking new skills and tactics to help enrich the lives of their children, making them safer, stronger and empowered. The YouTube channel offers tips and insights that Dads can use every day with their kids, teaching them and spending fun time together. We welcome the participation from Dads from all parts of the world, backgrounds and experience, as we re united in our roles as leaders.

On this episode of Close Quarter Dad, we explore the importance of teamwork, nature literacy, disaster preparedness, communication skills, and male empowerment in fatherhood. Listeners will learn the four survival priorities and how to prioritize them in different situations. Toby also shares his experiences and practical tips on teaching and broadening urban survival skills, risk management and concepts specific for men wanting to elevate the children's knowledge in self reliance. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN What are the three things that Dads miss when teaching children wilderness and urban survival skills? What is more valuable to have as a family in survival crisis: a high skill level or good group dynamics? How does a Dad approach teaching survival psychology to children? Why is childhood engagement with nature vital and how can Dads best lead the way? What should Dads prioritize when teaching children about nature? What is the unique relationship parents and kids must have between communication skills and survival? Why is the universal model for survival important to teach young people, and how can it be used to improve their skills? Why is male empowerment and support important when it comes to leading children into safety and survival knowledge? The podcast wraps up with a discussion on how to create a supportive community for new fathers and what next steps they can take to better their role as a trainer and guide for their kids.. For more information and resources, listeners are encouraged to connect with Toby Cowern: Resilience Hub LinkendIn CHAPTERS AND INTEREST [00:04:14] Toby explains the importance of using models to structure information when teaching survival skills.   [00:12:19] Training in survival psychology can increase individual resilience and survivability, but it needs to be done right.    [00:19:39] Start engaging kids in nature from a young age, based on their interests. It's easier to follow their lead than trying to force them.    [00:24:07] Bird language is part of nature literacy, which can help people reconnect with nature post-pandemic. Children already have the skills, but adults need to rekindle those neural connections.    [00:27:54] Teamwork is crucial for survival in challenging situations, and group dynamics can be more important than individual skills.  [00:38:49] Conversation has a powerful impact, both positively and negatively.    [00:47:58] Selko Bergovich is Toby's friend and mentor who taught him his urban survival skills.    [00:53:01] The importance of being prepared for both natural and man-made disasters is often ignored due to discomfort, laziness, or belief that it won't happen here.    [00:59:59] There's a culture of male empowerment that needs to be strengthened, with more meaningful conversations around threshold moments and mental health.   [01:03:02] The model is crucial to structure everything off. People can use it as a reference point to determine what parts they need to work on.     MORE ABOUT TOBY COWERN Toby's unique fusion of teaching background, risk management qualifications, military training and outdoors experience allows him to deliver Wilderness and Urban Survival Skills training of the highest calibre. Based in Scandinavia, and frequently working deep inside the Arctic Circle, Toby holds expertise in Extreme Cold Weather Wilderness Survival Skills, but also travels extensively to deliver applied Survival Training internationally. When not teaching or studying aspects of survival, Toby also deals with Management and Coaching Consultancy as well as running various highly applied nature immersion camps and seminars, aimed at managing and reducing stress both at individual and organisational level. Toby is also passionate about using immersive nature engagement to help promote positive reconnection with the natural environment ('Rewilding Yourself') and tapping in to the powerful personal development and growth that can be attained from this.  Referenced: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Partition_of_India   START TRAINING YOUR KIDS NOW Here’s a complimentary lesson I made for channel listeners on the 3 Discussions you must have with your kids about safety and survival. It’s only ten minutes long, but could be a life saving 10 minutes of your time spent. CloseQuarterDad.com/3Discussions   CONNECT AND LEARN MORE WEBSITE: https://closequarterdad.com INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/closequarterdad FACEBOOK: https://Facebook.com/closequarterdad What can you do to support this channel? Subscribe, every new listener counts to us Engage, we are a community who supports each other Leave a review, let us know what you think Share, know others who may get some value - then share our channel

... Before it Spots Your Kids. In this recording from the Child Safety Summit, 2022 we sit down with the authority on Situational Awareness, fellow Dad and author of some of the most comprehensive and valuable books on keeping your family safe. In this episode you will learn: How children can identify and understand normal environmental behaviors. How children can spot abnormal behaviors within their given environment. How to give children a plan and a means of avoidance or escape should a dangerous situation present itself. Whether you're a parent, relative, or work in the childcare industry, the things you impart upon children will have a lasting impact on the way they live their lives. Nowhere is this more important than in the area of personal safety. As caregivers, we have a great responsibility for the security and wellbeing of our children, and to guide them along the path to independence. CONNECT WITH GARY QUESENBERRY WEBSITE: https://www.garyquesenberry.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/quesenberrytraining/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/gary.quesenberry/ ABOUT GARY Gary Quesenberry served in the United States Army where as an Artilleryman during Operation Desert Storm. He later became a career Federal Air Marshal and instructor where he devoted his life to studying the areas of violence and predatory behavior. Now Gary works as a personal defense trainer and has developed numerous basic and advanced level training courses focused on mental toughness, marksmanship, and defensive tactics. Gary is also the author of the “Heads Up” series of books, Spotting Danger Before it Spots You, Build situational awareness to stay safe, and Spotting Danger Before it Spots Your Kids, Teaching situational awareness to keep children safe. He has an extensive background in domestic and foreign counter-terror training and has worked in both the private and corporate sectors to help educate others on the importance of situational awareness, and personal safety. START TRAINING YOUR KIDS NOW Here’s a complimentary lesson I made for channel listeners on the 3 Discussions you must have with your kids about safety and survival. It’s only ten minutes long, but could be a life saving 10 minutes of your time spent. CloseQuarterDad.com/3Discussions   CONNECT AND LEARN MORE WEBSITE: https://closequarterdad.com INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/closequarterdad FACEBOOK: https://Facebook.com/closequarterdad   What can you do to support this channel? Subscribe, every new listener counts to us Engage, we are a community who supports each other Leave a review, let us know what you think Share, know others who may get some value - then share our channel    

Learn how to shift your mindset to a teacher of Self Defense, when training your children how to protect themselves and remain strong in the face of danger. Avi Nardia (Major, IDF Res.) served as an official hand-to-hand instructor and safety officer. He then served in Israel's Special Counter Terror Unit (YAMAM) as its official defensive tactics/CQB instructor and intelligence team member. He also served at the Israeli Operational Police Academy as an official instructor of defensive tactics and operational behavior. In 24 years of reserve service to the Israeli Defense Forces (IDF), he earned the rank of Major. He has also trained Police agencies and armed forces all over the world, from Police patrol and corrections officers to SWAT, SRT and SERT team members along with Army, Marine and counter terror units and Special Forces. He is one of a handful of instructors to have been an official instructor for the Israeli army, Israeli Police, and Israeli counter terror units. Website: AviNardia.com START TRAINING YOUR KIDS NOW Here’s a complimentary lesson I made for channel listeners on the 3 Discussions you must have with your kids about safety and survival. It’s only ten minutes long, but could be a life saving 10 minutes of your time spent. CloseQuarterDad.com/3Discussions   CLOSE QUARTER DAD: CONNECT AND LEARN MORE WEBSITE: https://closequarterdad.com INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/closequarterdad FACEBOOK: https://Facebook.com/closequarterdad   What can you do to support this channel? Subscribe, every new listener counts to us Engage, we are a community who supports each other Leave a review, let us know what you think Share, know others who may get some value - then share our channel

If you're a parent of a 10-16 year old, how would you respond to a grown man has pleasuring himself in front of your son or daughter, and there wasn't a damn thing you could do about it? That's question I could think of after recording this episode. There's an extremely high chance that this has already happened to your child, or far, far worse ... and like me, you have no clue. Do not be the parent who responds with, 'not my kid'. I said the same thing, and I was wrong. Stop reading right now, and go ask your kid if they've ever heard of the site Omegle. If they respond 'yes' - they have been present to highly explicit acts, live and in person. They have been victimized, imprinted. It's time to start having conversations. In this episode, myself and Eric Carricato, Sergeant with the NYPD and Dad, step into Omegle and ask the people there if this site is safe for children. What we discover very quick, is a harsh reality that almost no parents are even aware of. Their children have been hurt, and they have no clue. Watch the video at: https://closequarterdad.com/is-omegle-safe-for-kids PLEASE NOTE: Due to the nature of the content, the recording quality changes frequently. START TRAINING YOUR KIDS NOW Here’s a complimentary lesson I made for channel listeners on the 3 Discussions you must have with your kids about safety and survival. It’s only ten minutes long, but could be a life saving 10 minutes of your time spent. CloseQuarterDad.com/3Discussions   CONNECT AND LEARN MORE WEBSITE: https://closequarterdad.com INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/closequarterdad FACEBOOK: https://Facebook.com/closequarterdad   What can you do to support this channel? Subscribe, every new listener counts to us Engage, we are a community who supports each other Leave a review, let us know what you think Share, know others who may get some value - then share our channel

One of the most critical topics to teach our children in terms of safety, regardless if it's staying safe from people or environmental dangers - is posture. It's also a topic seldom discussed in relationship to staying personal protection, but it is vital that kids are taught this.   What you will learn in this episode: Why posture keeps a child safe, and how you can teach it Four life changing exercises you can do with your kids  What we unknowingly ask our kids to do everyday, and the long term damage it creates Why monkey bars matter and why you should STOP helping your kids How to play with your kids and build trust for deeper conversations Nutrition and posture, how the support one another 7 Steps to mastering your kids diet   Join myself and Chris Janke, author and host of the Health in the Real World podcast, as we go deep into why teaching your children to have good posture will keep them situationally aware and why, and help them to develop into strong, confident adults. ABOUT CHRIS JANKE Chris Janke is the host of Health in the Real World podcast. As a seasoned personal trainer of 16 years, he has a lot to offer. He has been a trainer since 2004, and has helped hundreds of people achieve their fitness goals in a way that's safe and sustainable. He is also a health and fitness writer of varied books about how to improve your life. view his books. He is a single father of 4, all under 10 years old. He knows what it's like to juggle life's challenges, while still staying committed to his personal health and wellness. CONNECT WITH CHRIS: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrjanke/ Email: chris@mycorebalance.com   START TRAINING YOUR KIDS NOW Here’s a complimentary lesson I made for channel listeners on the 3 Discussions you must have with your kids about safety and survival. It’s only ten minutes long, but could be a life saving 10 minutes of your time spent. CloseQuarterDad.com/3Discussions   CONNECT AND LEARN MORE WEBSITE: https://closequarterdad.com INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/closequarterdad FACEBOOK: https://Facebook.com/closequarterdad   What can you do to support this channel? Subscribe, every new listener counts to us Engage, we are a community who supports each other Leave a review, let us know what you think Share, know others who may get some value - then share our channel

This episode is for Dads who want to really understand why martial arts are not self defense. Indeed, they support one another, but it's critical that you understand the difference. You will step into a conversation with Randy King and Adam Mitchell about the differences between and the two, the benefits they both have and how a parent should think when choosing a martial art their child will commit to. You will learn: The four categories of martial arts How everything must be defined by goals What to look for in a martial art Looking through the lens of Self Defense Where reality based systems fail CONNECT WITH RANDY KING 80.20 Website: Randy King Live Facebook @Conflictmanagementstrategies Instagram: @RandyKingLive RANDY'S BIO Randy King is known internationally for his work in self-defense and personal development training. He began his career as a local influencer, but quickly realized that he wanted to do more. Randy partnered with other international coaches and organizations to bring his message to a broader audience - showing that self defense is not just for the young and fit. Randy is highly sought-after as an educator and consultant in the area of conflict management and violence prevention. His clients and colleagues appreciate his insight, practicality, and dedication. Randy has a unique ability to make complex topics easy to understand, while maintaining a focus on the practical applications of the material. He is known for his personable demeanor, making him an excellent choice for training individuals or organizations.   START TRAINING YOUR KIDS NOW Here’s a complimentary lesson I made for channel listeners on the 3 Discussions you must have with your kids about safety and survival. It’s only ten minutes long, but could be a life saving 10 minutes of your time spent. CloseQuarterDad.com/3Discussions   CONNECT AND LEARN MORE WEBSITE: https://closequarterdad.com INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/closequarterdad FACEBOOK: https://Facebook.com/closequarterdad   What can you do to support this channel? Subscribe, every new listener counts to us Engage, we are a community who supports each other Leave a review, let us know what you think Share, know others who may get some value - then share our channel

What are you doing to keep children in schools safe? How are you showing up for your community to protect and be an active player in the protection of children? Or, are you sitting on the sidelines, hoping your tax dollars cover their safety, meanwhile point fingers at who's to blame for the deaths of innocent little ones. If you're reading this, you are concerned and want to take a step up to controlling the safety of our youngest and most innocent. This episode, I share my own personal feelings, and what we as men can do to keep our children safe. START HERE - GET EDUCATED SIGN UP FOR THE CHILD SAFETY SUMMIT, 2022 https://closequarterdad.com/summit-2022   START TRAINING YOUR KIDS NOW Here’s a complimentary lesson I made for channel listeners on the 3 Discussions you must have with your kids about safety and survival. It’s only ten minutes long, but could be a life saving 10 minutes of your time spent. CloseQuarterDad.com/3Discussions   CONNECT AND LEARN MORE WEBSITE: https://closequarterdad.com INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/closequarterdad FACEBOOK: https://Facebook.com/closequarterdad   What can you do to support this channel? Subscribe, every new listener counts to us Engage, we are a community who supports each other Leave a review, let us know what you think Share, know others who may get some value - then share our channel

One of the many challenges we as parents face is projecting our expectations onto our children, and assuming they are going to know what these expectations mean. It's actually kind of nuts, and in this conversation we unravel the root of all upset your children encounter, and why. Ben Winter is the author of What to Expect When Having Expectations, using the anger of unmet expectations to find peace. In this episode you will learn about: Living a life of Improv. How to find out where bad feelings are coming from. How to use unmet expectations. Redefining how you enter into conversation with your kids and having a new found sense of expectation. Defining clearer expectations for greater outcomes together Why you have to be willing to follow through with consequences. CONNECT WITH BEN WINTER Ben's Website: What to expect when Having Expectations The Book What To Expect when having Expectations Facebook @BenWinterAuthor BEN'S BIO Ben certainly hasn’t been idle in life. A couple of years out of college and he started doing things and going places he never would have expected. From traveling to personal growth to marriage and child to divorce and parenthood to entrepreneurialism and inspiring others. Ben has flown an airplane on his own and has been scuba diving in the Galapagos. He has seen the animals of Tanzania and has traveled all over Europe with a 6-month-old child in tow. He has performed improv for over a decade, acted in several plays, and even a movie. He has owned several businesses. His biggest passion is exploring the mind. In all of his personal growth work, the one constant was that it all stems from the mind. Between personal growth and improv, he found this weird realm called expectations. And while most people would shy away from such a thing, he decided to tackle it head-on. Along his journey, he decided that “the only reason anyone gets upset is because an expectation hasn’t been met.” And begin teaching that in his Success Improv business. START TRAINING YOUR KIDS NOW Here’s a complimentary lesson I made for channel listeners on the 3 Discussions you must have with your kids about safety and survival. It’s only ten minutes long, but could be a life saving 10 minutes of your time spent. CloseQuarterDad.com/3Discussions   CONNECT AND LEARN MORE WEBSITE: https://closequarterdad.com INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/closequarterdad FACEBOOK: https://Facebook.com/closequarterdad   What can you do to support this channel? Subscribe, every new listener counts to us Engage, we are a community who supports each other Leave a review, let us know what you think Share, know others who may get some value - then share our channel