87. Helpful Support (Independence) vs Harmful Support (Dependence). Mentioning Jon Haidt, Kim Scott,

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This episode discusses the differences between helpful and harmful support in various contexts, emphasizing the importance of fostering independence and resilience.

Helpful Support = 1. Increased Trajectory + 2. Increase Resilience Harmful Support = 1. No Improvement In Trajectory + 2. Lowered Resilience Support in Different Contexts - Workplace: Managers should focus on developing employees' skills and independence - Parenting: The goal is to raise independent adults, not perpetually dependent children - Friendships: There's a delicate balance between being supportive and becoming a "coach" - Addiction and mental health: Support should aim for long-term recovery and resilience, not enabling destructive behaviors Jon Haidt's Three Great Untruths: - "What doesn't kill you makes you weaker" => What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. - "always trust your feelings" => Feelings should be examined, sometimes immediate responses are counter productive and one should 'think slow, not think fast'. - "life is a battle between good people and evil people" => The world is not zero sum, most things are 'win-win'. Defining Effective Support - Support done well leads to independence and growth, not dependence - The goal is to "teach someone to fish" rather than continuously "giving them fish" - Good support maximizes the trajectory of someone's…

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Host: Cloud Streaks

Topics covered

• support
• independence
• resilience
• workplace
• parenting
• friendships
• mental health

Keywords

• support
• independence
• resilience
• workplace
• parenting
• friendships
• mental health

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