Paul Aragones: How to Engineer a Great Marriage

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In this episode, Tejas Kumar interviews Paul Aragones about the parallels between software engineering and building a successful marriage.

Links - CodeCrafters (Sponsor): https://tej.as/codecrafters - Guest Socials (Paul Aragones): Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/prequalizer/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PinoyHusbands - Gottman Institute (The Four Horsemen): https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/ - Cal.com (Peer Richelsen): https://cal.com Mentioned Episodes - Diazno Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4i4txd4HhngCGAtDWt0JZF?si=h-LM6LEPQGeh8Hsu2s5N4w Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/diazno-how-to-unlock-creativity-taste-and-effective/id1731855333?i=1000747678547 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k8azxbxYBAc&list=PLEJpU2pV0Lie1VWU1unMg_7FRQ1gqFmAZ&index=4&t=5888s&pp=iAQBsAgC Summary In this episode, I sit down with Paul Aragones, an embedded Linux engineer who made the fascinating pivot to becoming a marriage coach. We explore the surprisingly deep parallels between building stable software systems and engineering a divorce-proof marriage. We discuss why marriage is actually the ultimate operating system for life, how to create a 'spec sheet' for your partner to avoid compatibility bugs, and why…

People in this episode

Host: Tejas Kumar

Guest: Paul Aragones

Topics covered

• marriage coaching
• software engineering
• relationship dynamics
• personal development
• compatibility in relationships

Keywords

• marriage
• engineering
• relationship
• compatibility
• coaching
• Gottman Institute
• divorce prevention
• personal growth

Sponsors

CodeCrafters

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Gottman Institute, Cal.com, Diazno, Spotify, Apple, YouTube

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