The High-Effort Life: Wanting It All Isn't Selfish but It Requires Training

About this episode

The episode discusses the importance of training for a high-effort life and validates the desire to pursue multiple roles without guilt.

There's a difference between trying hard and training hard. One is an inevitable path to burn out while the other creates the capacity to sustain the life it feels like many people tell you to stop wanting. This week, it's just Thea on the other end of the line here to convince you that it's truly okay to want the high-effort life. After speaking at the Boss Mares Lead the Herd Workshop in Fort Worth, Thea came home with a singular clarity about what rural women entrepreneurs actually need to hear: validation that wanting it all: the ranch, the business, the marriage, the community, the energy to show up fully in every role ... it isn't selfish. And the path to getting there isn't hustle culture power moves OR soft-girl simplification. It's a solid and strategic commitment to training for it. This episode neutralizes the two narratives we've been sold as far as a solution to our overwhelm and exhaustion to either push harder or want less. Thea walks through her four-stage planning order of operations (Prime, Plan, Process, Preserve) and makes the case that planning itself is the training ground for the do-it-all life you're trying to create. You don't climb Everest on grit alone…

People in this episode

Host: Thea Larsen

Topics covered

• high-effort life
• rural women entrepreneurs
• training vs. trying
• planning
• work-life balance

Keywords

• high-effort life
• training
• rural women
• entrepreneurship
• planning
• work-life balance
• self-improvement

Mentioned in this episode

Places: Fort Worth

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