413: 'Is this ever going to happen for me??' (ft. Violet Lange)
About this episode
Melanie Curtin and Violet Lange discuss the challenges of holding a long-term vision for relationships and personal growth amidst struggles and setbacks.
You know the feeling. You've been holding a vision — for the partner, the family, the sex life you actually want — for months. Maybe years. Maybe decades. And it's still not here. And underneath the longing, there's a quieter, scarier question: Is there something wrong with me that it hasn't happened yet? Here, my dear friend and co-facilitator Violet Lang and I have an honest conversation about what it actually takes to hold a long-term vision without collapsing or giving up. We speak vulnerably from experiences in our own lives, as well as the lives of hundreds of clients with whom we've worked. Violet walks us through her fertility journey (including two devastating miscarriages, failed IVF, and ultimately the path of donor embryo) — which she never would have chosen without being brought to her knees first. She also shares her journey from dissociating during sex and fearing that maybe she was broken — to a genuinely thriving sex life. I share my own stretch — over a year of unstable housing while trying to co-found a group house, watching teams fall apart, deals fall through, and feeling a good amount of despair. And my 10-year vision of a conscious romantic partner that's…
People in this episode
Host: Melanie Curtin
Guest: Violet Lange
Topics covered
- long-term vision
- fertility journey
- sex life
- personal growth
- relationship challenges
Keywords
- vision
- fertility
- miscarriage
- IVF
- sex life
- relationship
- personal experience
- dating
- initiation
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