416: How do you deal with your trust issues? (ft. Violet Lange)
About this episode
Melanie Curtin and Violet Lange discuss trust issues in dating and relationships, exploring how they manifest differently for men and women and outlining paths to healing.
Who doesn't have trust issues? Let's be real. Whether it shows up as "I don't trust her to handle my anger," or "I'm afraid I'll just be treated like an ATM" or, "I can't relax until I know the person really, really well," — almost all of carry some version of trust concerns into our dating and relationships. Here, my dear friend and co-facilitator Violet Lange and I do something we don't often get to: We put our worlds side by side. I work primarily with men who are attracted to women; she works primarily with women who are attractd to men. Here we map out the top 3 trust issues we see in our clients -- in other words, how trust issues show up differently across men and women that are attracted to the opposite sex. And, encouragingly, we outline how the path to healing them is remarkably similar. We also get practical about the 3 things required to actually rebuild trust — and none of them is blind trust. As Violet puts it, the goal isn't to trust everyone; it's to trust trustable people, and to feel good about staying closed when you need to. If you want the relationship but dread the dating part; if you're tired of being on dating apps; if you keep wondering "why do I keep…
People in this episode
Host: Melanie Curtin
Guest: Violet Lange
Topics covered
- trust issues
- dating
- relationships
- healing
- communication
Keywords
- trust issues
- dating
- relationships
- healing trust
- communication
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