417: Top 3 ways to NOT come off as creepy (ft. Jason Lange)

About this episode

The episode discusses how to avoid coming off as creepy in dating and interactions with women, featuring practical advice and personal stories.

A 2022 dating survey showed that a whopping 69% of American men say that fear of being labeled "creepy" impacts how they interact with women. And 44% said it diminishes how much they interact with women at all, romantically or otherwise. In other words, the fear of being creepy can hold you back from all connection with women , not just in the realm of dating/relationships. But let's talk about sex and dating for a moment. The cruel irony is that this kind of fear usually means you've got a good heart — but left unchecked, it can make you shrink, go invisible, and tuck your sexuality away entirely ... which kills polarity. Here, Jason and I count down the top 3 ways to make sure you're NOT coming off as creepy. We get practical as well as emotional. I share the "library story" I still think about; Jason gets honest about the years he spent frozen and numb — and we get into why whoever is breathing more deeply in the room ... is holding alpha. We also share the simple thing you can say out loud that turns an awkward, high-stakes context with a woman into one where she actually feels safe enough to say yes — including the exact line that helped one man ask out a longtime friend and…

People in this episode

Host: Melanie Curtin

Guest: Jason Lange

Topics covered

• dating
• relationships
• communication
• fear of being creepy
• emotional connection

Keywords

• creepy
• dating advice
• relationships
• emotional safety
• communication skills

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