118: Triggers, Tantrums, and Techniques That Work

About this episode

This episode explores the role of emotional intelligence in parenting, focusing on understanding triggers and improving responses to child behavior.

You promise yourself you won’t yell… and then suddenly, you have. Maybe your child’s tantrum isn’t even that big, but something in YOU snaps. If you’ve ever wondered why you react the way you do, even when you know better, this episode is for you. Today I’m not talking about how to “fix” your child, stop tantrums, or get quick compliance. I’m talking about the missing piece most parents were never taught: emotional intelligence, and how it completely changes the way you experience triggers, yelling, and discipline. I unpack why reacting is often automatic, not a failure… Why punishment and control don’t create calm (even when they seem to work short-term)… And why self-awareness, not willpower, is the skill that gives you choice in hard moments. This conversation will help you see your triggers differently, understand what’s really happening in your nervous system, and shift the focus from controlling behaviour to building connection and emotional safety. No scripts. No step-by-step formulas. Just powerful orienting principles to help you respond more intentionally, even on the haaard parenting days. If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the same cycle, and you’re ready to parent…

People in this episode

Host: Stephanie Pinto

Topics covered

• emotional intelligence
• parenting techniques
• child tantrums
• self-awareness
• discipline
• connection

Keywords

• emotional intelligence
• parenting
• tantrums
• self-awareness
• discipline
• connection
• calm parenting

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: From Chaos To Connection

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