Shadow Work for When You Can’t Say What You Feel (with Luke Adler)

About this episode

The episode discusses shadow work and the challenges men face in expressing their feelings.

In this episode I’m joined by Dr. Luke Adler, my co-facilitator in the Heart of Shadow program, to dive into shadow work for one of the most common struggles I see in men: knowing what you feel but not being able to say it. That chasm between awareness and expression, between what’s happening inside and actually moving sound through your body and into a conversation. We break down why so many of us freeze when it matters most and what’s actually underneath that freeze. We explore the origin stories of why our nervous systems learned to lock things up in the first place, the difference between vulnerability and transparency, and why a men’s group is often the only place where you can finally practice bringing yourself forward in a way that actually sticks. If you’ve ever had words stuck in your throat with a partner, struggled to have a hard conversation, or just felt like something is blocked between what you know and what you can say, this one’s for you. Join the next Heart of Shadow cohort at https://heartofshadow.com

People in this episode

Guest: Dr Luke Adler

Topics covered

• shadow work
• emotional expression
• vulnerability
• men's groups
• nervous system

Keywords

• communication
• emotional awareness
• transparency
• vulnerability

Mentioned in this episode

Products: Heart of Shadow program

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