From Resentment to Real Partnership: Ending the “Lazy Husband” Cycle & Building an Egalitarian Marriage | Dr. Joshua Coleman

About this episode

Dr. Taniesha Burke and Dr. Joshua Coleman discuss the challenges of achieving an egalitarian marriage after the arrival of children.

Why do so many modern marriages struggle after children arrive, even when couples start with the best intentions? In this episode, Dr. Taniesha Burke sits down with psychologist and bestselling author Joshua Coleman, author of The Lazy Husband , to unpack one of the most common sources of marital resentment: unequal parenting and household labor.   Most couples say they want an egalitarian marriage, but after kids, many mothers feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and unsupported. Fathers may feel confused, criticized, or unappreciated. What’s really happening beneath the surface? Dr. Coleman explains: Why marital satisfaction drops after children (especially for wives) The psychological shift from “ me-centered ” to “ we-centered ” marriage How “ maternal gatekeeping ” can unintentionally push fathers away The 3 marriage types: traditional, transitional, and egalitarian Why appreciation motivates men more than criticism The powerful 5:1 positive-to-negative ratio for long-term marital success We also explore: ✔️ Why many fathers compare themselves to their own dads and why that standard no longer works ✔️ How unequal mental load impacts intimacy and sexual connection ✔️ The…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Taniesha Burke

Guest: Dr. Joshua Coleman

Topics covered

• marriage
• parenting
• household labor
• egalitarian marriage
• marital satisfaction
• communication

Keywords

• resentment
• equal parenting
• maternal gatekeeping
• marriage types
• appreciation
• mental load
• intimacy
• communication strategies

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: The Lazy Husband

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