Finding Love After 30

In today's episode, I'm getting real about why dating apps aren't actually the problem, and how the strategy you've been using is.In this episode you'll learn:Why treating dating like a numbers game is keeping you stuckThe difference between collecting matches and actually filtering for the right personHow to use your past dating experiences to identify your core valuesHow to weave those values into your profile so you attract the right men (and filter out the wrong ones)LINKS MENTIONED:🎉 Free Irresistible Woman Series 20+ dating and relationship experts. Free access. Tons of gifts. 👉 Sign up here🔥 The Magnetic Dating Profile: Turn your profile into a magnet for emotionally available men who actually want a relationship. 👉 Grab it here before the price goes upEnjoying the podcast? Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it. 💛Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

If being single feels especially triggering for you (engagement announcements, weddings, breakups, or the pressure of feeling “behind,”) this episode is for you.Today I'm breaking down a concept I teach all of my coaching clients: clean pain vs. dirty pain, and how confusing the two is what keeps so many women stuck in anxiety, shame, and dating spirals.In this episode, we cover:The difference between clean pain and dirty pain, and why it mattersWhy seeing other people get engaged or married can send you into a spiralHow your brain creates fear-based stories about your future without you realizing itWhy breakups hurt more when you make them mean something about youA simple way to validate your feelings without letting them run your lifeHow to stop dating from urgency, panic, or comparisonWhat it looks like to return to dating from a grounded, confident placeThis is a powerful mindset shift you can use anytime you feel triggered around being single, especially during the holidays.And if you are ready to stop spiraling, regulate your nervous system, and date with intention in the new year, send me a DM on Instagram (@shondahowardlove) with the word CUSTOM and I’ll send you a personalized dating strategy.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

In this Thanksgiving episode of Finding Love After 30, Shonda gets real about how hard the holidays can feel when you’re single, surrounded by couples, and dodging questions like “So…are you seeing anyone?” She walks you through why gratitude is not pretending everything is fine, but a grounding practice that helps regulate your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and actually make you more available for healthy love.You’ll hear how Shonda used daily gratitude on her own journey to meeting her husband, how this ties into the cognitive model from CBT, and a simple three-part gratitude practice you can start today, even if you’re feeling lonely or behind.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why holiday comments about your love life sting so much (and why it makes sense you feel anxious).How gratitude supports nervous system regulation and secure attachment.A simple daily gratitude/appreciation ritual you can do in a few minutes, morning or night.If you’re ready to go beyond gratitude and want personalized support with nervous system regulation, attachment healing, and dating strategy, send Shonda a DM on Instagram with the word CUSTOM and she’ll send you a free custom dating strategy with the exact steps to take based on where you are right now.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything to find love — dating apps, social events, staying “open”— yet it still feels like nothing’s working, this episode is for you.In today’s episode of Finding Love After 30, Shonda shares how to shift from chasing love to attracting it by becoming the woman who’s already a match for the kind of relationship she wants. In this episode, you’ll learn:The difference between chasing love and attracting itWhy trying harder in dating can actually push men awayThe nervous system truth behind “chasing energy”The key mindset shift that makes you magnetic to secure menA simple journaling practice to align with the version of you who already has the relationship you wantResources & next steps:DM Shonda the word MAGNETIC on Instagram @shondahowardlove for a free dating strategy call.Subscribe to Finding Love After 30 for more episodes that help you find the relationship you’ve been dreaming of.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

What if your greatest heartbreak could become your most powerful transformation?In this raw conversation, I sit down with my dear friend Meagan Norris – former lawyer turned life and divorce coach who revolutionized her entire life after her divorce. She shares how she left a marriage that looked perfect on paper but felt deeply wrong in her body, and transformed that pain into purpose.But this isn't just a divorce story. It's a masterclass in the exact emotional alchemy required to find extraordinary love at any age.Meagan reveals how the same skills that helped her create a peaceful divorce against all odds – managing emotions, validating herself, and focusing relentlessly on her vision – are precisely what create magnetic attraction in dating. Her journey illuminates why so many women struggle to find authentic partnership when they're unconsciously outsourcing their worth to potential partners.Whether you're healing from heartbreak, stuck in situationships, or simply ready to call in a deeper love, Megan's wisdom offers the roadmap to becoming the woman who naturally attracts what she desires – by becoming complete in herself first.In This Episode You'll Discover:The subtle red flags your body recognizes before your mind catches upHow to stop "leaking energy" through validation-seeking behaviors that repel healthy partnersThe counterintuitive practice of using your anxiety as "sacred fuel" instead of a problem to solveWhy becoming a match for extraordinary love requires radical self-leadershipThe exact process for trusting your timeline instead of forcing relationships out of fearHow to distinguish between genuine change and temporary appeasement in partnersThe transformational mantra: "I hate this, and that's okay" – and why it's more powerful than toxic positivityWhy Megan is intentionally not dating yet – and the wisdom in deliberate seasons of being singleAbout Meagan Norris: Meagan is a single mom to three children who transformed her life through radical self-responsibility. After leaving her law career in 2010, she discovered life coaching in 2019, which gave her the tools to navigate her divorce with unprecedented speed and grace. Now, she helps women rewrite their divorce stories through her signature programs: The Divorce Accelerator and Beyond Divorce membership.Connect with Megan: Follow Meagan and learn more about working with her on Instagram: @MeganNorrisCoaching Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

In this episode of the Finding Love After 30 podcast, we dive deep into a topic that so many of you have been asking about: how to meet high-quality men in real life, without relying on dating apps. If you're tired of swiping and feeling frustrated with online dating, this episode is for you! I’ll be sharing my top strategies for meeting men offline, but before we dive into the “how,” we’ll focus on an essential mindset shift: who before how. This is all about getting your energy aligned so you can show up as your most magnetic self before putting yourself out there. Once you've got your mindset right, I'll give you actionable tips on where to go and how to meet men in the real world. Key Topics Covered:·     Why it’s important to take a break from dating apps when you’re feeling burned out·     The importance of who before how—cleaning up your mindset and energy before taking action·     How to connect with your future self to boost your confidence and attract the right energy·     Practical, real-life strategies to meet men, including switching up your routine, trying new activities, and joining local events·     The role of being open, curious, and present in creating magnetic energy that draws people inResources Mentioned:·   Book a call with me here– Join my Find The One program for personalized support in your dating journey.·     Instagram – DM me with your questions or share your experiences with implementing these strategies!·     Take Action: Listen in, and don’t forget to DM me on Instagram @shondahowardlove to let me know which strategies you’re trying. I’m here to support you every step of the way! Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

If you're single and Dreading Valentine's day then this is for YOU! I'm sharing my recent masterclass: Non-Sucky Valentine's day.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most overlooked yet powerful aspects of dating: inner safety. If you’re tired of dating feeling like a high-stakes game where you’re always waiting for validation or reassurance, this episode is for you.Inner safety is the sense of calm, security, and self-trust that comes from within. It’s what keeps you grounded, confident, and able to navigate dating without getting overly attached or anxious. When you build this internal sense of safety, dating becomes less of a rollercoaster and more of a steady, enjoyable process.Download the FREE worksheet for this episode hereKey TakeawaysInner safety helps you stay grounded and resilient even when things feel uncertain. This is key for dating without feeling like you need external validation.Internal safety reduces the need for validation from others, allowing you to approach dating with confidence, self-worth, and clarity.Three techniques to build inner safety: a body scan meditation, the 5-5-7 breathing exercise, and a self-hypnosis mantra practice. Each of these helps you reconnect with yourself and calm your nervous system, so you’re less likely to get swept up in overthinking or emotional spirals.Practical TipsTry a body scan meditation to bring awareness to your body and calm your mind, especially before a date or whenever you feel anxious.Practice the 5-5-7 breathing exercise to center yourself in the moment and create an internal feeling of calm. This technique is great for pre-date nerves or daily practice.Use a self-hypnosis mantra to reinforce the belief that you are safe, grounded, and complete within yourself. This simple technique helps you feel more secure from the inside out.Listen to This Episode If…You feel anxious or unsettled in dating and crave a sense of calm and confidence.You often look for validation or reassurance in relationships and want to change that pattern.You’re ready to date from a place of security and self-worth, so you can recognize and attract the right kind of partner.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

In this week's episode I'm breaking down the importance of self-confidence when you're dating over 30 AND I'm giving you my hack for showing up securely as your most confident self to your next date! No more second guessing yourself, waiting around for him to ask you out again, and no more settling.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

This week I’m giving you a peak into a client’s journey to find love, how she became magnetic and started attracting better quality men (and more opportunities in her career and life!) and the sneaky way she started self-sabotaging.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

This week we’re talking about the popular dating advice to “date in your league”. If you’re frustrated with the types of men you seem to date (ghosters, bread-crumbers, chads, d-bags) then the best strategy might be to change your league! Listen to find out how!Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

In this episode I'm breaking down a unique theory about dating that will help you stop feeling like you’ve wasted time on the wrong man. Whether you've faced heartbreak, ghosting, or situationships, this perspective will offer you comfort and motivation to keep moving forward and stay in the dating game with an open heart so can find your person. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

In this episode I'm giving you some life updates and breaking down why you need to stay unattached + cultivate your intuition in dating if you want to stay sane and find your person.Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.