10 Choices Every Griever Faces

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In this episode, Sharon Brubaker discusses the ten choices every griever faces and emphasizes the importance of active participation in the healing process.

Episode Description "You may not get to choose what you feel. But you do get to choose what you practice." In this episode of Grieve That Shit , Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down something most grievers have never been told: You have choices in your grief. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief feels automatic. The memories. The body reactions. The waves that hit before you're even fully awake. It can feel like something is happening to you — and you are stuck. But what if you are not stuck? This episode walks through 10 real choices every griever faces — not fluffy mindset shifts, but nervous-system level decisions that shape whether you stay in survival mode or begin moving toward healing. From avoidance vs. engagement, to isolation vs. regulated support, to surviving vs. living again — Sharon challenges the belief that time alone heals and invites you into active participation in your own healing. This episode is not about forcing feelings. It is about practicing safety. Because grief healing is not passive. It is something you participate in. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why you cannot always choose your…

People in this episode

Hosts: Sharon Brubaker, Sharon

Topics covered

• grief
• healing
• mental health
• choices in grief

Keywords

• grief choices
• survival mode
• healing process
• emotional response

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