Healing Anxious Attachment

An episode to listen to when you're feeling anxious right now. Or, listen now and save the teaching for later 🫶🏼.We also touch on how to regulate your emotions, come back to your own sense of safety, and create a more grounded, secure way of relating.See in you in there!GO DEEPER WITH JOHANNA 🦢 Join me inside Becoming HER - the place you come when therapy and books haven't been enough. For the woman competent in other areas of life, but anxious in relationships.

In a world that often glorifies constant closeness, this episode explores the power of space within relationships.We dive into the concept of polarity - how attraction thrives when there’s a sense of individuality and magnetism between two people. Because when you’re always merged, something can start to fade.We also touch on why space can feel especially important for avoidant partners and why many men, in particular, value freedom as a way to feel safe and open.See in you in there!Say Hi on Instagram - I love hearing from you @johhhannamariaGO DEEPER Join me inside Becoming Secure - a 3 Phase Method for changing your attachment from anxious to secure at the nervous system level 🧡

What if your relationship with food isn’t just about food?In this episode, I share my own struggles with disordered eating and anxious attachment, and the surprising parallels I’ve noticed between the two. From craving reassurance in relationships to seeking comfort or control through food, these patterns often stem from the same place - fear of abandonment, lack of safety, and a deep need for control.This is a conversation about the emotional roots beneath these behaviours and what healing has looked like for me as I’ve started building more security within myself.PS. On March 5th I'm hosting "The Language of the Body Workshop" which is a perfect intro to somatic therapy and will give you frameworks for understanding what it means to rewrite patterns on a subconscious level and free you of old stories, blocks, and even symptoms.Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡Over 30 guided somatic practices2 live calls a monthNext workshop March 5th! (Replay available) Individualized coaching from Johannalearn more here 💐

In this episode, we explore what it means to move from forced to self-sourced. When external crutches like validation, and good-girl syndrome aren't enough and you’re called to become your own anchor.This conversation unpacks the emotional shifts, inner resilience, and self-trust that are built when you stop outsourcing safety, validation, and direction.If you’ve found yourself gripping and forcing to hold yourself through uncertainty, this episode is an invitation to step into deep self-reliance, inner security, and embodied confidence.👑 ✨ SELF-SOURCED 8 Week Group Program Waitlisted 👑 ✨ Learn more.An 8 week initiation into your own power, through and beyond healing anxious attachment into regulation, inner security, and amazing relationships.https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/ss-ep45-btm

The holidays can be triggering, here's how to protect your peace. This episode covers:-How you can bring more depth and feeling into your traditions -5 ways to clear and protect your energy-Discerning when to have the intense conversations Go Deeper into you Inner Work Journey: Join the Becoming Secure women’s membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡30+ guided somatic practices2 live calls a monthIndividualized coaching from Johannalearn more here 💐

In this episode, we dive into the toxic cycle of tying our value to how much we achieve or produce and why it pushes away healthy love. We talk about what happens when our reality revolves around being busy, rather than being fulfilled. And how women suffer when pleasure, joy, and creativity fall to the bottom of the list.This conversation also explores how perfectionism and the need for control can pull us further from ourselves. Enjoy! Go Deeper:Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡Over 30 guided somatic practices 2 live calls a month Individualized coaching from Johanna learn more here 💐

Release anxious energy on every level, from shifting your perspective to completing the stress cycle, holding discomfort, and using somatic practices to create real relief.I explore how to release anxiety on every level: the mental layer (shifting perspectives and letting go of rigid expectations), the physical layer (rest, hormones, and completing the stress cycle), the emotional layer (building the capacity to hold discomfort), and the subconscious layer (somatic practices and parts work).DO THE INNER WORK Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡Over 30 guided somatic practices 2 live calls a month Individualized from Johanna learn more here 💐

Trauma isn’t only about life-threatening events, it’s also the smaller wounds and unmet needs that shape how we think, feel, and protect ourselves. In this episode, we explore the layers of the mind (conscious, subconscious, unconscious), the difference between Big T and Little T trauma, and the trauma response or defense systems that develop as a result. You’ll learn how the body holds these memories and why healing through somatic work can feel surprisingly safe and natural.Go deeper inside Becoming Secure. A high-touch Women's Group with live workshops and Q&A calls, somatic healing videos, accountability for your personal growth, and a place where you'll immediately remember that you're not the only one going through this 🧡 Join the Becoming Secure membership here. 7 Day Free Trial. Monthly subscription and cancel easily, anytime.

One of the most powerful things you can do on your healing journey is get good at knowing and trusting what you need — not what you were told to need, not what you think you should need, but what your body and heart are truly craving. This episode answers a question from a Becoming Secure Community Member who asked: “How do I even know what my core needs are? And once I do… how can I meet them on my own?”Together, we explore:Neediness versus NeedsWhen to meet your own needs and when to ask for your needs to be met Discovering your deeper emotional or relational needsHow to reconnect to your needs through your bodyCore needs in the realms of intimacy, sex, safety, self-expression, and relationshipsThe connection between your needs and your valuesThis episode also includes a somatic practice to help you tune in and feel your needs rather than just think about them. You’ll walk away with clarity, direction, and a deeper sense of connection to your inner world.Resources Mentioned: Quiz - Which Anxious Attachment Type Are You?Becoming Secure Community - Course + Community + Coaching

You never “need” anything. But underneath, you’re anxious, and wishing to feel more held.In this episode, we explore what happens when high-functioning anxiety plays out in relationships — from early dating to long-term partnership.And most importantly, how it impacts your ability to be met, supported, and chosen.You’ll hear:Why overfunctioning can push love away — even when your intentions are pureHow emotional management erodes polarity and leads to motheringThe kinds of men we attract when we’re performing vs. when we’re rooted in selfAnd what to practice instead — so you stop chasing safety and start receiving loveIf you’ve ever said “I did everything and he still pulled away, why wasn't I enough?” this episode is for you.WORK TOGETHER 🧡🌻 🫳🏼 BECOMING SECURE MEMBERSHIP COMMUNITY - Course + Coaching + Community 📲 Find me on Instagram

We talk so much about how anxious attachment plays out in romance—but what about friendship?If you’ve ever felt too sensitive, too intense, or too dependent in friendships—or you’ve abandoned them for romance—this conversation is for you.In this episode, I explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways anxious attachment shows up in our platonic connections: overthinking texts, people-pleasing, jealousy, and the pain of feeling replaceable. We also look at deeper patterns—like recreating dynamics with your mother or sister, using male friendships as emotional placeholders, and disappearing from your friends when a new love interest enters the picture.Go beyond understanding your patterns and actually start healing them at the root, come join us inside my membership, Becoming Secure. You’ll get nervous system-based tools, somatic practices, and community support to help you feel safe, grounded, and secure in love and life.⏱️ TimestampsNote: These are approximate and meant to help listeners follow the flow.00:00 – Intro & why this topic matters02:15 – What anxious attachment in friendship actually looks like05:50 – How to tell if you're over-functioning or emotionally over-relying on a friend09:30 – The mother/sister dynamic in female friendships13:20 – Male friendships as placeholders for father wounds16:45 – The quiet pattern of abandoning your friends for romance20:30 – Self-reflection and starting to shift these patterns23:00 – Invitation to go deeper inside Becoming Secure

After a breakup, it’s easy to feel lost—like you don’t even recognize yourself anymore. In this episode, we’re diving into how to reconnect with you after a relationship ends.We’ll explore what that relationship revealed about you, where you may have lost yourself, and the moments that felt out of alignment. I’ll guide you through ways to help you reclaim your identity and step back into your truth.Connect with me on Instagram @johhhannamaria. Please send me a DM letting me know that you're coming from the podcast! 🧡

It can feel like anxious attachment runs you. Doubt, fear of relationship ending, and low confidence are symptoms of something deeper that your body wants to release and heal. _____Becoming Secure Membership 🎆Learn more here.